I want to take horse riding lessens but my parents say it a lot of money.I love horses!!!How to convince my parents to let me take horse riding lessens?
Tell them you'd love to do something different, horse riding is a great experience and you love horses. Or try to find some cheaper stables to ride in ;)
Good luck
Thursday, May 13, 2010
What do all new parents need as far as supplies for the baby?
Im going to have a baby soon and Im making a check list over everything needed like a crib,mattress,bedding,changing table/dresser,high chair etc What is everything I'll need? what could i be leaving out?What do all new parents need as far as supplies for the baby?
A diaper genie!!!!!! We got my aunt one for her baby shower and she says that is one of the best presents she got at that party.
Lots and lots and lots of wet wipes and diapers and baby powder.
You should get lots of soft, fleecy blankets that are crib-sized so you'll have plenty of extra clean ones, should the blankets in the crib get dirty frequently-- and they probably will.
As for the crib, i recommend those ones that change from a crib to a small bed. That way, when you're child gets old enough for a ';big boy/girl bed'; you'll already have one! It's going to be more expensive right now, but you'll save money in the long run.
Get bibs too. LOTS of bibs. You'll probably use a clean one for every meal as your baby gets old enough to eat stuff other than milk.
Teething rings are handy. They're these little soft-plastic things filled with water that you freeze. When your child is teething, you take them out of the freezer and they suck/chew on them. The cold soothes their gums better than anything.What do all new parents need as far as supplies for the baby?
You're right about the basics (crib, mattress, bedding, etc.). You definitely want to purchase items that can be used after babyhood and into adulthood. I've found a great item that is called a combo dresser. It has some features of a changing table, yet it looks like a dresser. Storage for this item is great. In my opinion, you really don't need a changing table and a dresser...one item can serve as both!
This is all I have ever needed for an infant:
a car seat
long sleeve and short sleeve shirts (we EC, but you're probably not, so onesies and footie pjs)
diapers (or if you EC just some undies or flatfolds)
blankets
socks
a mei tai carrier or ring sling
We don't use any of the other crap that everyone thinks they have to have (like cribs, swings, changing tables, high chairs, on and on and on)
Really a place for clothes, and a bed which will probably be with you for a while really is good right now. You will be surprised how much of the extra stuff you don't use. Other things, make sure you have diapers, wipes, dr brown or avent bottles, gas drops is a big one, infant tylenol, and a thermometer. People also forget the little things. A baby tub.
I went all out on getting things when I was pregnant and half of the things I didn't use. Start with the basics and as you see you need things buy them but I would save them money before you buy everything.
Some must haves:
clothes
Car seat
diapers/ wipes
bottles or brest pump!
lotion
baby wash
blankets
spit up rags
oh and try to get as much sleep as you can now!!! good luck and congrats!!!
bedding (bed, mattress, sheets etc)
clothes in 00000 0000 000 you dont know what size he'll be and when he gets bigger its good to have some backup clothes
nappies
wipes
pram
change table or mat
baby bath + supplies
a toy that plays music
and thats it really for the basics if your baby needs anything else he'll let you know, i bought all this baby lotion and baby powder and i havent used it
essentials are -
bottles and steralising equipment (if your bottle feeding obvz nuffin if your not) warm new born clothing. bibs. soothers if you want to use them. moses basket/crib/cot. baby bath or bath support for big bath. towels. nappies, nappy cream, changing mat, bouncy chair, pushchair, car seat (most hospitals wont let you out with out one) lots of blankets and bedding. i brought evrything for our baby in stages i had essintails first then brought things such as highchair, cot mobile, toys, bigger clothing when it was needed i foud this a lot easier.. hope this helps and good luck xx
breasts, car seat, some clothes suitable to weather, diapers, sling or carrier of some sort.
*is it because I said breasts first that I get a thumbs down, or is it because I didn't list all the stuff that is a waste of money like a crib, change table, blah blah blah?
A car seat is the number one item you will need. Onesies, pajamas, socks, bottles, blankets and of course a lot of LOVE!
diapers
diaper rash cream
shampoo
lotion
q-tips
baby wipes
bottles
bottle washer
there is a lot more than just furniture!!
Baby bed (bassinet or crib)
Baby bedding
Mattress
Clothing
Diapers
Wipes
Car seat
Baby bath tub
Swing
Bouncer
I couldnt live without his swing.
A diaper genie!!!!!! We got my aunt one for her baby shower and she says that is one of the best presents she got at that party.
Lots and lots and lots of wet wipes and diapers and baby powder.
You should get lots of soft, fleecy blankets that are crib-sized so you'll have plenty of extra clean ones, should the blankets in the crib get dirty frequently-- and they probably will.
As for the crib, i recommend those ones that change from a crib to a small bed. That way, when you're child gets old enough for a ';big boy/girl bed'; you'll already have one! It's going to be more expensive right now, but you'll save money in the long run.
Get bibs too. LOTS of bibs. You'll probably use a clean one for every meal as your baby gets old enough to eat stuff other than milk.
Teething rings are handy. They're these little soft-plastic things filled with water that you freeze. When your child is teething, you take them out of the freezer and they suck/chew on them. The cold soothes their gums better than anything.What do all new parents need as far as supplies for the baby?
You're right about the basics (crib, mattress, bedding, etc.). You definitely want to purchase items that can be used after babyhood and into adulthood. I've found a great item that is called a combo dresser. It has some features of a changing table, yet it looks like a dresser. Storage for this item is great. In my opinion, you really don't need a changing table and a dresser...one item can serve as both!
This is all I have ever needed for an infant:
a car seat
long sleeve and short sleeve shirts (we EC, but you're probably not, so onesies and footie pjs)
diapers (or if you EC just some undies or flatfolds)
blankets
socks
a mei tai carrier or ring sling
We don't use any of the other crap that everyone thinks they have to have (like cribs, swings, changing tables, high chairs, on and on and on)
Really a place for clothes, and a bed which will probably be with you for a while really is good right now. You will be surprised how much of the extra stuff you don't use. Other things, make sure you have diapers, wipes, dr brown or avent bottles, gas drops is a big one, infant tylenol, and a thermometer. People also forget the little things. A baby tub.
I went all out on getting things when I was pregnant and half of the things I didn't use. Start with the basics and as you see you need things buy them but I would save them money before you buy everything.
Some must haves:
clothes
Car seat
diapers/ wipes
bottles or brest pump!
lotion
baby wash
blankets
spit up rags
oh and try to get as much sleep as you can now!!! good luck and congrats!!!
bedding (bed, mattress, sheets etc)
clothes in 00000 0000 000 you dont know what size he'll be and when he gets bigger its good to have some backup clothes
nappies
wipes
pram
change table or mat
baby bath + supplies
a toy that plays music
and thats it really for the basics if your baby needs anything else he'll let you know, i bought all this baby lotion and baby powder and i havent used it
essentials are -
bottles and steralising equipment (if your bottle feeding obvz nuffin if your not) warm new born clothing. bibs. soothers if you want to use them. moses basket/crib/cot. baby bath or bath support for big bath. towels. nappies, nappy cream, changing mat, bouncy chair, pushchair, car seat (most hospitals wont let you out with out one) lots of blankets and bedding. i brought evrything for our baby in stages i had essintails first then brought things such as highchair, cot mobile, toys, bigger clothing when it was needed i foud this a lot easier.. hope this helps and good luck xx
breasts, car seat, some clothes suitable to weather, diapers, sling or carrier of some sort.
*is it because I said breasts first that I get a thumbs down, or is it because I didn't list all the stuff that is a waste of money like a crib, change table, blah blah blah?
A car seat is the number one item you will need. Onesies, pajamas, socks, bottles, blankets and of course a lot of LOVE!
diapers
diaper rash cream
shampoo
lotion
q-tips
baby wipes
bottles
bottle washer
there is a lot more than just furniture!!
Baby bed (bassinet or crib)
Baby bedding
Mattress
Clothing
Diapers
Wipes
Car seat
Baby bath tub
Swing
Bouncer
I couldnt live without his swing.
I was wondering if you could find out if a noncustodial parents taxes havebeen offset.?
I wanted to know if I should be expecting a payment for my child from the noncustodial parent,from a tax offset. Is there any information available to tell you when, and if you will receive it ?I was wondering if you could find out if a noncustodial parents taxes havebeen offset.?
There is an IRS number with an automatic service to check on offsets but it is illegal for anybody except the taxpayer themselves to use it to check on themselves.I was wondering if you could find out if a noncustodial parents taxes havebeen offset.?
Search irs.gov for the offset number you need to contact. You will have to give your SS# for security purposes.ink refills
There is an IRS number with an automatic service to check on offsets but it is illegal for anybody except the taxpayer themselves to use it to check on themselves.I was wondering if you could find out if a noncustodial parents taxes havebeen offset.?
Search irs.gov for the offset number you need to contact. You will have to give your SS# for security purposes.
What do you think about minors being given birth control without their parents' consent?
I have to do a research project with a topic that had limited resources. Despite that, the topic of whether or not minors should be allowed to get birth control on their own intrigues me. What do you all think about this idea and why? Are you for it, against it? It doesn't matter what you decide to say.What do you think about minors being given birth control without their parents' consent?
on one hand they are acting responsible for their actions on the other, they are children and parents should have a say on what the child does, it might be against parents wishes to have their child get on the pill and they have a right to control that. it goes both ways....i am FOR parental rights and against children going behind their parents backWhat do you think about minors being given birth control without their parents' consent?
I think it's about time!
There are too many so-called ';parents'; out there who live in abject denial of sexuality, and believe that THEIR CHILDREN would never participate in anything sexual.
These are the young people who need help, since their parents are either too deeply in denial, too uptight about sex to discuss it, or totally in the dark.
If parents would have realistic discussions with their kids about sexuality, there would be no need for minors to seek out birth control on their own.
It's either that or STD's, pregnancy, and sometimes even death.
Parents: What do you want for YOUR child???
I'm actually against it. Sure it would prevent unwanted pregnancy and help stunt the spread of STD's blah blah blah. But in all honesty, no measure taken can stop teenage sex. I say just let them make their choices and reap what they sow. Nothing better than bitter regret to knock some sense into people. And of course it's an early warning sign to parents to let them know there is a major flaw in their parenting when their kid comes home pregnant or impregnated somebody.
I think minors should not be given birth control without their parents consent, if a law is established that all minors have to have parental consent to have sex, and if they fail to do so they will be deported to Afghanistan.
Should be illegal
The parents need to know what meds the child is taking and the state should not usurp parents rights..
Unless of course the state wants to take ownership of all children and pay for all their needs until they are 18.
Anyone who interferes in the birth control of another person gets the honor of paying the child support until the child is of legal age in my view.
If they are old enough to be having consensual sex, they are old enough to be given access to birth control. Withholding birth control does not stop sex - it just makes it riskier.
I think it's abhorrent. Parent's should be in control of their children, not schools or clinics. They are condoning illicit and often illegal behavior.
Minors have sex without their parent's consent. So, what's the alternative? A lot of unwanted pregnancies.
I am for it 100%, anything to reduce teenage pregnancy in this country
I'm all for it. We have too many people on this planet as it is.
its embarrassing to talk to there parents about it and what if there parents says no and they end up pregnant then what
on one hand they are acting responsible for their actions on the other, they are children and parents should have a say on what the child does, it might be against parents wishes to have their child get on the pill and they have a right to control that. it goes both ways....i am FOR parental rights and against children going behind their parents backWhat do you think about minors being given birth control without their parents' consent?
I think it's about time!
There are too many so-called ';parents'; out there who live in abject denial of sexuality, and believe that THEIR CHILDREN would never participate in anything sexual.
These are the young people who need help, since their parents are either too deeply in denial, too uptight about sex to discuss it, or totally in the dark.
If parents would have realistic discussions with their kids about sexuality, there would be no need for minors to seek out birth control on their own.
It's either that or STD's, pregnancy, and sometimes even death.
Parents: What do you want for YOUR child???
I'm actually against it. Sure it would prevent unwanted pregnancy and help stunt the spread of STD's blah blah blah. But in all honesty, no measure taken can stop teenage sex. I say just let them make their choices and reap what they sow. Nothing better than bitter regret to knock some sense into people. And of course it's an early warning sign to parents to let them know there is a major flaw in their parenting when their kid comes home pregnant or impregnated somebody.
I think minors should not be given birth control without their parents consent, if a law is established that all minors have to have parental consent to have sex, and if they fail to do so they will be deported to Afghanistan.
Should be illegal
The parents need to know what meds the child is taking and the state should not usurp parents rights..
Unless of course the state wants to take ownership of all children and pay for all their needs until they are 18.
Anyone who interferes in the birth control of another person gets the honor of paying the child support until the child is of legal age in my view.
If they are old enough to be having consensual sex, they are old enough to be given access to birth control. Withholding birth control does not stop sex - it just makes it riskier.
I think it's abhorrent. Parent's should be in control of their children, not schools or clinics. They are condoning illicit and often illegal behavior.
Minors have sex without their parent's consent. So, what's the alternative? A lot of unwanted pregnancies.
I am for it 100%, anything to reduce teenage pregnancy in this country
I'm all for it. We have too many people on this planet as it is.
its embarrassing to talk to there parents about it and what if there parents says no and they end up pregnant then what
What age does a child cease being a dependant on the parents tax return if the child is not in school?
If a child is over 18, employed, but still living at home, not in school, can the parent still claim him as a dependant on their tax return?What age does a child cease being a dependant on the parents tax return if the child is not in school?
If a child is a full-time student, living at home, a parent can claim this child until 24 years old.
Since he is not in school, working, 18 years old - probably not.What age does a child cease being a dependant on the parents tax return if the child is not in school?
no they can not he is over 18 and working
my little sis is in the same situation, except in college, my mom still claims her. but idk... as long as no one is double claiming i suppose it could go forever, or until 21. thats when child support ends so possibly 21
He is no longer a 'qualifying child' but if he lives at home and his parents provide more than half of his support, he is still a 'dependant'. He needs to file his taxes as a dependant, thus surrendering his personal exemption to claim any refund due to overpayment of his federal taxes that were withheld from his paychecks.
When he earns his own money over $600 and he has to do his own tax filing. I would check it anyway, just call or pick up the filing instructions. I know a child can be on their parents insurance for hospital %26amp; medical until the age of 25 if he is still in school. But I guess that depends on the policy or the state you live in.
If a child is a full-time student, living at home, a parent can claim this child until 24 years old.
Since he is not in school, working, 18 years old - probably not.What age does a child cease being a dependant on the parents tax return if the child is not in school?
no they can not he is over 18 and working
my little sis is in the same situation, except in college, my mom still claims her. but idk... as long as no one is double claiming i suppose it could go forever, or until 21. thats when child support ends so possibly 21
He is no longer a 'qualifying child' but if he lives at home and his parents provide more than half of his support, he is still a 'dependant'. He needs to file his taxes as a dependant, thus surrendering his personal exemption to claim any refund due to overpayment of his federal taxes that were withheld from his paychecks.
When he earns his own money over $600 and he has to do his own tax filing. I would check it anyway, just call or pick up the filing instructions. I know a child can be on their parents insurance for hospital %26amp; medical until the age of 25 if he is still in school. But I guess that depends on the policy or the state you live in.
What made you decide to take your life back from abusive, incompetent parents?
I know quite a few adults in their late 20's or early 30's who start to see their parents as humans rather than a role model/authority figure. Many realize that their parents psychologically and emotionally abused them and are still doing it.
Maybe your parents discouraged your aspirations and now you live with low self-esteem, an unsatisfying career; your actions based on fear and self-doubt. If this has happened to you, please describe what made you decide ';enough!' and what gave you the strength to take your power back?What made you decide to take your life back from abusive, incompetent parents?
I think you hit the nail on the head yourself.
One day you realize they are a person,, another human being. Not just a role model/ authority figure.
I eventually ';grew'; up,, for some that takes longer then others with thoes parents lording over you. But they are just people not Gods %26amp; they dont ';own'; me. I begin to learn alot about my parents own childhood %26amp; abuses %26amp; after being so mad at them for so long I pitied them ';both';. One for the abuse the other for allowing it. And that was enough for me,, that was the end of the abuse loop snipped clean %26amp; dead.
My son knows his grandparents %26amp; I am civil to them. He will never be allowed to be unsupervised with them %26amp; any advise they give me on raising kids is kicked out with the trash. I have no self-doubt when I look at my son's eyes %26amp; smile, when I hear him laugh %26amp; giggle. I have all the strength in the world %26amp; I will give it to him to be a strong young healthy boy to live his life the way he would choose. I used to dream of having a Mommy that would. Now I am his. That is my strength.What made you decide to take your life back from abusive, incompetent parents?
I Started ';getting the power back'; when I was 15 I am 23 now and we get along great. My strength came from a desire to get out of my parents house. My mom was kind of a control freak and it drove me crazy. I had all the time in the world ( because she grounded me all the time) to think about stuff. I finally started using logical psychological games against my parents to get what I wanted out of them. It worked.
Maybe your parents discouraged your aspirations and now you live with low self-esteem, an unsatisfying career; your actions based on fear and self-doubt. If this has happened to you, please describe what made you decide ';enough!' and what gave you the strength to take your power back?What made you decide to take your life back from abusive, incompetent parents?
I think you hit the nail on the head yourself.
One day you realize they are a person,, another human being. Not just a role model/ authority figure.
I eventually ';grew'; up,, for some that takes longer then others with thoes parents lording over you. But they are just people not Gods %26amp; they dont ';own'; me. I begin to learn alot about my parents own childhood %26amp; abuses %26amp; after being so mad at them for so long I pitied them ';both';. One for the abuse the other for allowing it. And that was enough for me,, that was the end of the abuse loop snipped clean %26amp; dead.
My son knows his grandparents %26amp; I am civil to them. He will never be allowed to be unsupervised with them %26amp; any advise they give me on raising kids is kicked out with the trash. I have no self-doubt when I look at my son's eyes %26amp; smile, when I hear him laugh %26amp; giggle. I have all the strength in the world %26amp; I will give it to him to be a strong young healthy boy to live his life the way he would choose. I used to dream of having a Mommy that would. Now I am his. That is my strength.What made you decide to take your life back from abusive, incompetent parents?
I Started ';getting the power back'; when I was 15 I am 23 now and we get along great. My strength came from a desire to get out of my parents house. My mom was kind of a control freak and it drove me crazy. I had all the time in the world ( because she grounded me all the time) to think about stuff. I finally started using logical psychological games against my parents to get what I wanted out of them. It worked.
How can I make parents comfortable with the idea of me watching their baby, when I don't have that experience?
I have been babysitting for about 5 years now, but I have never cared for a child younger than 6 years old. I really want the experience of caring for infants and toddlers, but (obviously) no one wants a someone to watch their baby when they don't have that experience. What can I say to assure them I will be sensitive to the needs of their child?How can I make parents comfortable with the idea of me watching their baby, when I don't have that experience?
Not sure if there is anything you really can do. Once parents, especially mothers make up their mind about the care of their infants, especially if they are a first time parent, they usually stick to it.
You can give them written references from your past employers stating what you did, how well you did, how the children loved you, etc.
Have you taken any babysitting courses? If not, you could do that too. They may feel alot better knowing you had taken classes and know cpr.
Other than that, besides begging, i don't think there is much you can do.How can I make parents comfortable with the idea of me watching their baby, when I don't have that experience?
You can't convince them because no parent will believe you are TRULY capable of caring for an infant the exact way it needs to be cared for if they've never done it before. They know because becoming a parent is a real eye opener! The only thing you can do is gain experience through family members or maybe friends- help out with their children if they have babies until they feel comfortable with leaving you alone with him/her. Consider it OJT (On the Job Training). I would never leave you alone with my baby. It's hard enough finding someone who actually has taken care of an infant before that you can feel comfortable with let alone someone who hasn't.
volunteer to help out while they are home as a ';mothers helper.'; This is a good way to get experience and the parent feels comfortable because they are still close by. After a while of doing this for a few families, you will be able to say you have experience working with infants and toddlers, and hopefully have some great references as well.
well you need the experience, are the parents in your family?if so, then it shouldnt be a problem to say to them what you have said to us on here, they prob will let you take the baby for an hour or so to begin with to see how you go.
if its strangers and you are goin to do this as a proffesion then you need qualifications, so get yourself to college and whilst there u usually have out of college work once a week, say at a nursery to get hands on experience too.
good luck
Go over and help them care for thier child while they are home. That way they can teach you how they do things and see they you would do a good job.
Not sure if there is anything you really can do. Once parents, especially mothers make up their mind about the care of their infants, especially if they are a first time parent, they usually stick to it.
You can give them written references from your past employers stating what you did, how well you did, how the children loved you, etc.
Have you taken any babysitting courses? If not, you could do that too. They may feel alot better knowing you had taken classes and know cpr.
Other than that, besides begging, i don't think there is much you can do.How can I make parents comfortable with the idea of me watching their baby, when I don't have that experience?
You can't convince them because no parent will believe you are TRULY capable of caring for an infant the exact way it needs to be cared for if they've never done it before. They know because becoming a parent is a real eye opener! The only thing you can do is gain experience through family members or maybe friends- help out with their children if they have babies until they feel comfortable with leaving you alone with him/her. Consider it OJT (On the Job Training). I would never leave you alone with my baby. It's hard enough finding someone who actually has taken care of an infant before that you can feel comfortable with let alone someone who hasn't.
volunteer to help out while they are home as a ';mothers helper.'; This is a good way to get experience and the parent feels comfortable because they are still close by. After a while of doing this for a few families, you will be able to say you have experience working with infants and toddlers, and hopefully have some great references as well.
well you need the experience, are the parents in your family?if so, then it shouldnt be a problem to say to them what you have said to us on here, they prob will let you take the baby for an hour or so to begin with to see how you go.
if its strangers and you are goin to do this as a proffesion then you need qualifications, so get yourself to college and whilst there u usually have out of college work once a week, say at a nursery to get hands on experience too.
good luck
Go over and help them care for thier child while they are home. That way they can teach you how they do things and see they you would do a good job.
How does someone go about relinquishing their parental rights to the other parent?
I have a friend who believes that she isn't made to be a mother. The father currently has full custody. She wants to relinquish all of her rights to him because I believe she doesn't want to pay child support anymore. Doesn't the father have to agree to this as well? What are her options? I agree it isn't the more honorable thing to do, but I'm just trying to show her what her options are.How does someone go about relinquishing their parental rights to the other parent?
She can't. She can sign over full custody, but it does not eliminate her financial obligation to her children.How does someone go about relinquishing their parental rights to the other parent?
In general absent an adoption or legal court proceeding to terminate her rights the mother is on the hook for child support, no matter what she signs,
If it was so easy to get out of paying child support by the simple process of agreeing to relinquish rights every dead beat parent in the US would choose such an avenue but that鈥檚 not how the system works
She can't. She can sign over full custody, but it does not eliminate her financial obligation to her children.How does someone go about relinquishing their parental rights to the other parent?
In general absent an adoption or legal court proceeding to terminate her rights the mother is on the hook for child support, no matter what she signs,
If it was so easy to get out of paying child support by the simple process of agreeing to relinquish rights every dead beat parent in the US would choose such an avenue but that鈥檚 not how the system works
How to get my parents to let me take gymnastics?
Ok I want to start gymnastics and last night I asked my mom if I could start and she got mad and said no. How can I get here to let me take gymnastics? I even offered to quit all my other sports but dance. Because I would much rather do gymnastics that the other Sport I am in now I just want to stay With dance also. Why did she get mad? And why didn't she take me seriously? I am very serious I mean I have done lots of research of gyms around.How to get my parents to let me take gymnastics?
Tell her that gymnastics will improve your perform in dance and dance will improve your gymnastics. Tell her the health benefits of it, no lower back pain from stretching it and being flexible.
Explain to her you have done research on gyms and that you would LOVE to do gymnastics.
Your mom may have gotten mad because if you are doing other sports and she is spending money on them and you want to quit it may make her feel like you will quit gymnastics later too. You have to think that gymnastics can get expensive, and with our economy in the dumps your parents might be a little stressed letting you do it.How to get my parents to let me take gymnastics?
Well your mom might have gotten mad or raised her voice because gymnastics is a really serious and dangerous sport. She might just want to protect you....i can relate i was like a inch away from breaking my back seriously but if you really want to do it just tell her all the positives of gymnastics. Offer to help pay because gymnastics is really expensive. Tell her that it also can help you in dance make you improve. I hope this helps.
Maybe she's heard some bad stereotypes about gymnasts ? Tell her it is something that will keep you in shape, help boost confidence, and make you a well-rounded person for your entire life.
maybe its because its kinda dangerous and u can get seriously hurt...
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Tell her that gymnastics will improve your perform in dance and dance will improve your gymnastics. Tell her the health benefits of it, no lower back pain from stretching it and being flexible.
Explain to her you have done research on gyms and that you would LOVE to do gymnastics.
Your mom may have gotten mad because if you are doing other sports and she is spending money on them and you want to quit it may make her feel like you will quit gymnastics later too. You have to think that gymnastics can get expensive, and with our economy in the dumps your parents might be a little stressed letting you do it.How to get my parents to let me take gymnastics?
Well your mom might have gotten mad or raised her voice because gymnastics is a really serious and dangerous sport. She might just want to protect you....i can relate i was like a inch away from breaking my back seriously but if you really want to do it just tell her all the positives of gymnastics. Offer to help pay because gymnastics is really expensive. Tell her that it also can help you in dance make you improve. I hope this helps.
Maybe she's heard some bad stereotypes about gymnasts ? Tell her it is something that will keep you in shape, help boost confidence, and make you a well-rounded person for your entire life.
maybe its because its kinda dangerous and u can get seriously hurt...
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How should I act in front of my BFs eastern european parents?
I grew up in america so I have the american customs and ways. I didnt want to make a bad impression to my BFs parents so I was hoping someone could give me some insight as to how to be polite to them. They come from Bosnia, which is in eastern europe, the balkans.How should I act in front of my BFs eastern european parents?
act naturally, be nice, polite, modest, don't use cus words and as someone already said pay attention to your clothing, it should not be provocative, short, too tight... good luck ;o)How should I act in front of my BFs eastern european parents?
I would read up on internet the custom of families in Bosnia. I know you should greet them and called them Mr and Mrs XXXX unless they otherwise tell you to call them by their first names, etc. You should treat them as if they were the Queen of England like holding the door open, allowing them to sit down first, they are served first at dinner, etc.
And I would be talking to your boyfriend who is the one who should be guiding you!!!!
It isn't going to be easy. If you wash your hair daily, they will think you are a waster, they will be watching everything that you do. I know, I am married for 34 year to a eastern European. I don't think his mother ever liked me try as I might.
I lived in her home for 6 months in Hungary,after her husband died we wanted to help her around her home. Everything I did was wrong for her. I would wash her clothes and dry them outside, take them in and fold them etc. Not good enough for her. She would say,';my other daughter-in-law is going to iron them for me.';
They will always think you are a spoiled American, as long as your boyfriend likes you, what else do you need. Sorry to sound like a downer but the truth is the truth.
um well here are things to expect at a Bosnak home u probably have 2 take off ur shoes when u get 2 his house ..say hello to his dad ooo here say this ( Dobro Daun) it means good day and greet rest of his family but just get in good with the mom and ur in 2 be honest Bosnak parents have a hard time excepting other races so dont be offended if they dont except u at 1st but they will like u if u work 2 impress them :D goodluck
almost forgot dont ever ever ever ever talk about the past war in Bosnia (they think Americans dont know anything about it )
im from serbia...parents are parents...b nice and polite and dnt make them feel unconfortable...ofc try to b dresses normally which means no low cut shirts or short skirts...dnt insist in showing that ur american and show them u care bout their son
:)
be humble dont be out spokin dont be loud or ubnoctious(lol i cant spell)
I had to smile at one of the answers here as it happens a lot that one person's experience becomes the stereotype for a whole nation!
I am also married to a Bosnian and the same as everywhere every woman and every mother-in-law is different and to be honest that is the best way to approach things.
Don't go there with a mind-set of what is right and wrong. Also don't try and be someone you think they will like. Firstly your true character will shine through so it is better to be up front from the beginning.... afterall, it's what attracted your bf to you and that alone should be enough for his mother (to see her son happy).
Just be respectful and watch what is going on. If in doubt wait to be invited and/or ask your bf.
Remember to take a gift that is personal and shows thought. I took fine Delft china which is typical of the Netherlands (where we both live) and she was over the moon with this :0)..... however I got presents from her and the rest of the family in the form of jewelrry and then my china seemed pretty feeble in comparison!
As I said everyone is different but generally (I had this discussion with several Bosnian %26amp; a Montenegran friends, importance lies around the family and what is best for her family, so she will be interested in you probably to see how you are, and how you act. Show interest - don't be afraid to ask bf to translate (if you don't speak a common language), don't worry, and enjoy yourself.
EDIT - Oh one thing - depending on the religion of your bf and his family If they are bosniak (taking shoes off as mentioned) take care how you greet them. In the Netherlands it is normal to kiss on the cheeks both your mother-in-law and father-in-law but this is a no-no especially with the Bosniak males, so that's a good thing to take into account - just shake hands and smile.
act naturally, be nice, polite, modest, don't use cus words and as someone already said pay attention to your clothing, it should not be provocative, short, too tight... good luck ;o)How should I act in front of my BFs eastern european parents?
I would read up on internet the custom of families in Bosnia. I know you should greet them and called them Mr and Mrs XXXX unless they otherwise tell you to call them by their first names, etc. You should treat them as if they were the Queen of England like holding the door open, allowing them to sit down first, they are served first at dinner, etc.
And I would be talking to your boyfriend who is the one who should be guiding you!!!!
It isn't going to be easy. If you wash your hair daily, they will think you are a waster, they will be watching everything that you do. I know, I am married for 34 year to a eastern European. I don't think his mother ever liked me try as I might.
I lived in her home for 6 months in Hungary,after her husband died we wanted to help her around her home. Everything I did was wrong for her. I would wash her clothes and dry them outside, take them in and fold them etc. Not good enough for her. She would say,';my other daughter-in-law is going to iron them for me.';
They will always think you are a spoiled American, as long as your boyfriend likes you, what else do you need. Sorry to sound like a downer but the truth is the truth.
um well here are things to expect at a Bosnak home u probably have 2 take off ur shoes when u get 2 his house ..say hello to his dad ooo here say this ( Dobro Daun) it means good day and greet rest of his family but just get in good with the mom and ur in 2 be honest Bosnak parents have a hard time excepting other races so dont be offended if they dont except u at 1st but they will like u if u work 2 impress them :D goodluck
almost forgot dont ever ever ever ever talk about the past war in Bosnia (they think Americans dont know anything about it )
im from serbia...parents are parents...b nice and polite and dnt make them feel unconfortable...ofc try to b dresses normally which means no low cut shirts or short skirts...dnt insist in showing that ur american and show them u care bout their son
:)
be humble dont be out spokin dont be loud or ubnoctious(lol i cant spell)
I had to smile at one of the answers here as it happens a lot that one person's experience becomes the stereotype for a whole nation!
I am also married to a Bosnian and the same as everywhere every woman and every mother-in-law is different and to be honest that is the best way to approach things.
Don't go there with a mind-set of what is right and wrong. Also don't try and be someone you think they will like. Firstly your true character will shine through so it is better to be up front from the beginning.... afterall, it's what attracted your bf to you and that alone should be enough for his mother (to see her son happy).
Just be respectful and watch what is going on. If in doubt wait to be invited and/or ask your bf.
Remember to take a gift that is personal and shows thought. I took fine Delft china which is typical of the Netherlands (where we both live) and she was over the moon with this :0)..... however I got presents from her and the rest of the family in the form of jewelrry and then my china seemed pretty feeble in comparison!
As I said everyone is different but generally (I had this discussion with several Bosnian %26amp; a Montenegran friends, importance lies around the family and what is best for her family, so she will be interested in you probably to see how you are, and how you act. Show interest - don't be afraid to ask bf to translate (if you don't speak a common language), don't worry, and enjoy yourself.
EDIT - Oh one thing - depending on the religion of your bf and his family If they are bosniak (taking shoes off as mentioned) take care how you greet them. In the Netherlands it is normal to kiss on the cheeks both your mother-in-law and father-in-law but this is a no-no especially with the Bosniak males, so that's a good thing to take into account - just shake hands and smile.
What is something you allow your kids to do that most parents would disapprove of?
What do you allow them to do? Why do you allow them to do it any why do you think most parents are wrong for not allowing it?What is something you allow your kids to do that most parents would disapprove of?
this is going to sound so petty but -- climb up the slide. as long as no one else is trying to go down the slide what is the big friggin deal?What is something you allow your kids to do that most parents would disapprove of?
I allow my boys who are now 11 and 12 to watch any kind of movies except of course XXX rated movies or movies that have alot of sex in them. But as for violence my boys have been watching Blade movies since they were 2 and 3 and have never had any problems. I know people that think I am terrible for allowing that. But oh well for them my kids also aren't afraid of the dark and know that stuff like that isn't real because my husband and I took the time to show them how they do some of those special affects in the horror movies. In fact my 12 year old has always loved scary movies.
When my son and I were at the laundromat a while back, he needed to go to the toilet. The toilets were about a hundred metres away, and he needed to cross a road (using a very safe crossing that we'd used together many times before). I let him go by himself. He made it back just fine. I imagine that would freak a lot of parents out.
Oh, and a few weeks ago, he wanted to find different ways to ride his bike down a short, steep hill. After doing it myself to show him how to keep his weight over the back of the bike so he wouldn't go over the bars when he hit the flat ground at the bottom of the hill, he had a few tries and made it down safely. Even the one time where he messed up his line and clipped his pedal on a rock and I thought for sure he'd come off, he managed to stay on and ride it out. Most parents (and by parents I mean mothers) would have kittens if they'd seen their kids doing that.
Amsam - For the longest time I've had a bug up my butt about not letting my kids ever climb up the slide, but you know what? You're right. As long as there's no kids trying to come down, what's the big deal?
I am the mom of a 15 year old and a 12 year old, both boys. Both boys are well behaved, do well in school and are well adjusted. One of the things my oldest son does that most parents would disapprove of is curse. It's never used in a negative connotation, usually only when he's re-telling something he saw on television, but I don't consider it a big deal, especially not given he's an honors student and an athlete. It's just not a big deal to me and I also feel that it's people who assign negative meaning to those words anyway, they're only words unless you give them meaning. He certainly hears it from me on occasion (and nearly EVERY TV show and movie out there). I figure if the worst thing my son ever does is use a curse word, then I've done a pretty damn good job. Plus he knows better than to use them around anyone but me or his friends, he's respectful of teachers and kids' moms and his grandparents.
I had one teacher get on to him for saying ';freaking';. She said it means the same thing as the other ';f'; word. During the course of the conversation she said ';crap'; and ';shoot'; and I said well, if I was going to use her logic, then she just cursed in front of me!! People are too small-minded and get hung up on things that really don't amount to anything.
I let my two 7 year olds stay up late on the weekends and nights that they don't have school the next day. They usually go to bed between midnight and 1. They always abide with a strict bed time during the week with no complaints, so I figure letting them 2 nights of no bed time is OK. Their grandparents think I'm crazy for letting them do this but I don't care. They are great kids and do great in school. They usually watch a movie, color, or read. I also have a 2 year old, so I also feel like it gives them a little break to do things they like to do without their little sister getting into the middle of it.
I use to have a list of them, but I can't remember many things off the top of my head. ... One of the big ones though is that I allow my daughter to call her father and I by our names. ... She doesn't do it often, but whenever she does I find comfort in knowing that she can say who she belongs to if she ever gets lost. Also, why should she have to call me a name different from what other people do?
It drives her father and some other people crazy. I really don't think it's a big deal. ... I don't think other parents are wrong for insisting that they be called ';mom'; and ';dad.'; That's just how they choose to raise their kids.
On the flip side, I can't stand being called ma'am! Grr, I get so upset when other people tell my daughter she has to say ';yes mam'; to me. I have many names: Michelle, Mom, Mother, Mommy, even ';Unfair Mom';. But mam is NOT one of my names. I am fine with someone who doesn't know my name calling me that. But if you know who I am - please use my name.
I allow my kids to make a lot more of their own decisions than most parents do. They are very young, only 2 and 4, so most people think I am crazy. I usually give them two options for the right answer, so it doesn't matter to me which one they choose. It is a great way to get them to cooperate while still feeling somewhat in control. We avoid a lot of power struggles with this strategy. All parent have the right to make their own decisions as to what is right for their own kids, so I would never say other parent are wrong for disagreeing with me. What works for some may not work for others.
I let my kids miss school for life enriching one time experiences that became available. It usually came with a price of them not being able to make up thier homework though, the kids always had a say in missing school for it or not though.
These are still some of the highlight memories of thier life, Im glad I was able to do it.
It was to go to work with me on some really exciting events that I was working at.
I taught our 4yo Kylie cross the street without help and now she goes alone to the store on the other side of the road. She can be trusted with money, because she knows how to count (to 100). We let her go to bed when she is tired and she doesn't have a bedtime, although most nights she goes to bed at 21:00-21:30. That seems reasonable to us. Kylie has her own cellphone and games and music on it. She can watch every movie she is interested in, regardless of the age recommended in the movie (without plain sexual movies - she is not interested at all). Kylie is allowed to play outside without supervision, because she is not a baby anymore, she can take care of herself while playing. It's not like she is doing something that requires adults. She can stay alone at home for a few hours without blowing the house up or getting kidnapped (in our own house...).
In general, we treat her like a person, not like a teddy bear.
I used to let my son have whatever he want. When he could walk I let him walk around restaurants or stores if he did not want to sit down. People didn't mind though because his skin was either a dark yellow/orange color or he was ';hooked up'; so they knew he was sick. But when he didn't have either, some people did get annoyed, but my son deserved every privilege he received. He went through a lot.
I don't really allow my daughter to do anything that is wrong, however, I hate it when I'm at the mall or a restaurant and you see the kids running around like crazy and screaming and the parents do nothing
this is going to sound so petty but -- climb up the slide. as long as no one else is trying to go down the slide what is the big friggin deal?What is something you allow your kids to do that most parents would disapprove of?
I allow my boys who are now 11 and 12 to watch any kind of movies except of course XXX rated movies or movies that have alot of sex in them. But as for violence my boys have been watching Blade movies since they were 2 and 3 and have never had any problems. I know people that think I am terrible for allowing that. But oh well for them my kids also aren't afraid of the dark and know that stuff like that isn't real because my husband and I took the time to show them how they do some of those special affects in the horror movies. In fact my 12 year old has always loved scary movies.
When my son and I were at the laundromat a while back, he needed to go to the toilet. The toilets were about a hundred metres away, and he needed to cross a road (using a very safe crossing that we'd used together many times before). I let him go by himself. He made it back just fine. I imagine that would freak a lot of parents out.
Oh, and a few weeks ago, he wanted to find different ways to ride his bike down a short, steep hill. After doing it myself to show him how to keep his weight over the back of the bike so he wouldn't go over the bars when he hit the flat ground at the bottom of the hill, he had a few tries and made it down safely. Even the one time where he messed up his line and clipped his pedal on a rock and I thought for sure he'd come off, he managed to stay on and ride it out. Most parents (and by parents I mean mothers) would have kittens if they'd seen their kids doing that.
Amsam - For the longest time I've had a bug up my butt about not letting my kids ever climb up the slide, but you know what? You're right. As long as there's no kids trying to come down, what's the big deal?
I am the mom of a 15 year old and a 12 year old, both boys. Both boys are well behaved, do well in school and are well adjusted. One of the things my oldest son does that most parents would disapprove of is curse. It's never used in a negative connotation, usually only when he's re-telling something he saw on television, but I don't consider it a big deal, especially not given he's an honors student and an athlete. It's just not a big deal to me and I also feel that it's people who assign negative meaning to those words anyway, they're only words unless you give them meaning. He certainly hears it from me on occasion (and nearly EVERY TV show and movie out there). I figure if the worst thing my son ever does is use a curse word, then I've done a pretty damn good job. Plus he knows better than to use them around anyone but me or his friends, he's respectful of teachers and kids' moms and his grandparents.
I had one teacher get on to him for saying ';freaking';. She said it means the same thing as the other ';f'; word. During the course of the conversation she said ';crap'; and ';shoot'; and I said well, if I was going to use her logic, then she just cursed in front of me!! People are too small-minded and get hung up on things that really don't amount to anything.
I let my two 7 year olds stay up late on the weekends and nights that they don't have school the next day. They usually go to bed between midnight and 1. They always abide with a strict bed time during the week with no complaints, so I figure letting them 2 nights of no bed time is OK. Their grandparents think I'm crazy for letting them do this but I don't care. They are great kids and do great in school. They usually watch a movie, color, or read. I also have a 2 year old, so I also feel like it gives them a little break to do things they like to do without their little sister getting into the middle of it.
I use to have a list of them, but I can't remember many things off the top of my head. ... One of the big ones though is that I allow my daughter to call her father and I by our names. ... She doesn't do it often, but whenever she does I find comfort in knowing that she can say who she belongs to if she ever gets lost. Also, why should she have to call me a name different from what other people do?
It drives her father and some other people crazy. I really don't think it's a big deal. ... I don't think other parents are wrong for insisting that they be called ';mom'; and ';dad.'; That's just how they choose to raise their kids.
On the flip side, I can't stand being called ma'am! Grr, I get so upset when other people tell my daughter she has to say ';yes mam'; to me. I have many names: Michelle, Mom, Mother, Mommy, even ';Unfair Mom';. But mam is NOT one of my names. I am fine with someone who doesn't know my name calling me that. But if you know who I am - please use my name.
I allow my kids to make a lot more of their own decisions than most parents do. They are very young, only 2 and 4, so most people think I am crazy. I usually give them two options for the right answer, so it doesn't matter to me which one they choose. It is a great way to get them to cooperate while still feeling somewhat in control. We avoid a lot of power struggles with this strategy. All parent have the right to make their own decisions as to what is right for their own kids, so I would never say other parent are wrong for disagreeing with me. What works for some may not work for others.
I let my kids miss school for life enriching one time experiences that became available. It usually came with a price of them not being able to make up thier homework though, the kids always had a say in missing school for it or not though.
These are still some of the highlight memories of thier life, Im glad I was able to do it.
It was to go to work with me on some really exciting events that I was working at.
I taught our 4yo Kylie cross the street without help and now she goes alone to the store on the other side of the road. She can be trusted with money, because she knows how to count (to 100). We let her go to bed when she is tired and she doesn't have a bedtime, although most nights she goes to bed at 21:00-21:30. That seems reasonable to us. Kylie has her own cellphone and games and music on it. She can watch every movie she is interested in, regardless of the age recommended in the movie (without plain sexual movies - she is not interested at all). Kylie is allowed to play outside without supervision, because she is not a baby anymore, she can take care of herself while playing. It's not like she is doing something that requires adults. She can stay alone at home for a few hours without blowing the house up or getting kidnapped (in our own house...).
In general, we treat her like a person, not like a teddy bear.
I used to let my son have whatever he want. When he could walk I let him walk around restaurants or stores if he did not want to sit down. People didn't mind though because his skin was either a dark yellow/orange color or he was ';hooked up'; so they knew he was sick. But when he didn't have either, some people did get annoyed, but my son deserved every privilege he received. He went through a lot.
I don't really allow my daughter to do anything that is wrong, however, I hate it when I'm at the mall or a restaurant and you see the kids running around like crazy and screaming and the parents do nothing
Christians/believers? If your parents were a homosexual couple would you still love them and respect them?
And would you still maintain that they were good parents and were able to bring you up well, as obviously evidenced by the virtue of your religiosity?Christians/believers? If your parents were a homosexual couple would you still love them and respect them?
Those who turn 2 %26amp; know the real Jesus Christ would know that its he who turns 2 %26amp; follows Jesus' instructions that r Jesus' true brothers %26amp; sisters. These children would inform %26amp; warn their ';parents'; that they would hv 2 turn 2 Jesus %26amp; end their sinful ways. If not, in a short reasonable amount of time they would hv no choice but 2 end their relationship with their ';parents'; as its an abomination 2 promote, participate in or accept these practices (Rom 1:24-32).
There is no good in any man (Rom 3:23). No1 can live without breaking God's eternal Law = sin that separates us from God. God cant look upon sin (why we need Jesus). God is the 1 who makes the rules %26amp; He created some 4 destruction. The crux of the problem 4 most humans is man (having limited knowledge) tries 2 understand what God is about by imposing human limitations 4 understand things 2 God's abilities. Who knows more about a house, the Builder or those moving in later?
God does nothing without a purpose. The institution of marriage btwn a man %26amp; a woman is what God set up 2 accomplish His purpose. God created Adam %26amp; Eve not Adam %26amp; Steve. More so than other things legitimizing gay behavior makes it appear 2 children (who r very impressionable) that nothing is wrong with being gay themselves. However, gay behavior/marriage is wholly %26amp; without exception an abomination (1 that God wont compromise on as He cant compromise the truth that stands 4ever unchanged (we r not allowed 2 either) %26amp; that cancels out ur salvation if u persist in it - we either imitate Jesus or we imitate animals on 1 level or another - doing so leads 2 a worse fate than animals b/c we can choose 2 turn 2 or reject God's Son).
God can forgive sinners which is why He sent His Son 2 die 4 all our sins. B/c God did this most loving thing 4 us %26amp; Jesus did all God commanded Him 2 do then all must go 2 Jesus 2 b saved from our sins (Jn 14:6; Acts 4:12) - turn our lives over 2 Jesus (no matter how or why we got in2 our sins - we're all sinners). This is b/c only thru Jesus can we b changed 2 whats acceptable 2 God, able 2 reject our unacceptable behavior. We cant change ourselves b/c we dont %26amp; cant know or understand God's purpose 4 creation without Jesus Christ opening our spiritual eyes 2 begin 2 know God %26amp; His purpose 4 everything (Jn 3:3,5; 5:39) - the only escape from our sins - If u remain in sin u cant enter Heaven.
But, no matter how much well-meaning people (religious or not) read the Bible they cant find Jesus Christ without going directly 2 Jesus thru His Biblical instructions (Jn 5:39; 10:1,7; 3:3,5). God outsmarted man - the Bible is the only 1 that cant be properly understood without Jesus (Jn 14:6; II Cor 3:14, Is 29:11-12 - If Jewish people cant pierce the veil over the OT without Jesus then 4 sure all gentiles cant). Thats why theres many interpretations %26amp; many thinking its fairy tales/a delusion (Jesus came bearing the sword of division).
The problem is theres many religions out there along with different varieties/offshoots. 1 day I realized they cant all b right (ie. theres 1 Bible, why so many interpretations? - II Pet 1:**19-21). Most religions came thru people who thought up things 4 a God they %26amp; others liked. Some realized religion could b good 2 control the masses %26amp; 4 other agendas. Religion wont teach you much about God (they cant teach what they dont know).
Religions made many fatal mistakes as they built their religions on what man would like God 2 b like. Many miss this - Jesus is the only 1 in history whom said He's ';the'; way, ';the'; truth %26amp; ';the'; life %26amp; NO 1 can know God except thru Jesus (Jn 14:6 - ref Acts 4:12; Jn 5:39; 10:1,7). This means ';the'; whole truth was complete %26amp; there4 finished thru what Jesus taught %26amp; did or God doesn't know what He's doing %26amp; cant be God. The truth is either fully true or its a lie. The full truth cant contain a lie %26amp; is the absence of any lie.
Either Jesus is the only full truth or theres no actual truth %26amp; there4 no God (God would have 2 know what Jesus was going 2 do). This means Jesus is whom He says He is or He's just another false prophet among many, whom should b disregarded. If He's the actual truth then theres no need 4 any NEW teaching. This means any so-called new teaching %26amp; any other religious beliefs %26amp;/or from self-proclaimed prophets or teachers r invalid, null %26amp; void %26amp; cant lead u 2 our real God. However, God always knew all Jesus was 2 do.
In fact, Jesus couldnt have done nor said what He did unless He fully knew the entire OT (the NT didnt exist @ the time of Jesus - only possible if God sent Him) %26amp; the Apostles couldnt write the NT unless Jesus allowed them 2 remember %26amp; know His purpose (Lk 24:25-27,45). Not possible unless God caused it.
A church thats very serious about finding the Biblical truth, understands what being Born Anew is about, might be able 2 help u but no1 can save u except Jesus (Jn 3:1-14 - note: Nicodemus was very religious but Jesus flatout told him he had missed the 1rst most important step, that he must b Born Anew or no matter how religious or good he thought he is he couldn't go 2 Heaven (Jn 3:3,5; Jn 14:6; Acts 4:12). Again, no1 can live without breaking God's Law = sin %26amp; separates us from God - only those who go thru Jesus can overcome this barrier %26amp; become legitimate children of God (why we must b Born Anew). Then read the whole Book of John b/c it connects 2 the whole Bible (leading 2 understanding other important things in the Bible).
Whoever seeks Jesus Christ, the Son of God, with all his heart %26amp; soul will find our real God %26amp; His Kingdom (u shall know the truth %26amp; it'll set u free). But u can lead a horse 2 water but u cant make them drink. Again, why should God want u 2 live with Him forever if u dont want 2 know Him (reason 4 free will)? The truth of God remains forever unchanged while things of man dies with him, including his religions %26amp; his gods, created in his image.
On 1 hand, God hates us b/c of our sins - neither being a good person as judged by men or religion can save u. On the other hand, God loves us dearly enough 2 send His Son 2 die for our sins - so that thru Jesus our sins could be forgiven if we sincerely turn to Him - Theres everlasting hope only in Jesus Christ %26amp; His Bible.
voyc4rmwldrnsChristians/believers? If your parents were a homosexual couple would you still love them and respect them?
That one's parent(s) are sinners is inevitable. All of our parents sin. Homosexuality is simply another sin. Homosexuals get out of alignment with the Church when they choose to redefine their life style as not a sin.
One cannot enter the kingdom of heaven lest he or she repents. One cannot repent if one denies an act is sin.
If parents must be without sin to be loved by their children, I'm afraid none of our children will be able to love us, nor will we be able to love our parents.
Grace and peace to all.
Absolutely.
One of my friends actually has two dads, and she's straight, happy, well-liked and her family is awesome. They're Jewish.
There are far, far fewer verses in the Bible condemning homosexuality than there are ones about divorce, and Jesus never once spoke out about gays, but he did say that divorce was wrong. There are many divorced Christian parents, and people don't usually ask their kids if they lack virtue or are unable to love and respect them.
You actually asked a real question. I'm shocked.
Of course.
Keep in mind that if you were born to, or adopted in early childhood by, a gay male couple or a lesbian couple, you would grow up not thinking there was anything wrong with homosexuality. You would grow up loving and respecting them as your PARENTS -- the people who loved you, took care of you, provided you with a loving home, a roof over your head, meals, all your material needs; the people who nursed you when you were sick, attended all of your Little League baseball games or piano recitals or school plays or whatever; the people who took you camping or to Disney World or to the zoo, etc.
They would have proven to you every day of your life that they are good, loving parents who brought you up as best they knew how and wanted only the best for you.
Why on earth would you suddenly stop loving them simply because you choose to become a fundamentalist Christian??
I would suspect that you wouldn't join a fundamentalist church, however, because you would KNOW from personal experience that gay and lesbian people are NOT the perverted sinners that some Christian churches accuse them of being. Why on earth would you choose to join a church that demonizes your PARENTS -- the 2 people you love most -- as unrepentant evil sinners bound for hell??
LOL! I would still love and respect them, I suppose, although I would view their lifestyle as immoral. I really liked the tongue in cheek reference to my virtuous religiosity-- that was clever.
peace
Personally,I would be confused.Just the same,I stand against homosexuals as as same sex marriage.
I am Atheist but even when I was Christian (how embarrassing, I was Christian) I was never prejudiced.
Those who turn 2 %26amp; know the real Jesus Christ would know that its he who turns 2 %26amp; follows Jesus' instructions that r Jesus' true brothers %26amp; sisters. These children would inform %26amp; warn their ';parents'; that they would hv 2 turn 2 Jesus %26amp; end their sinful ways. If not, in a short reasonable amount of time they would hv no choice but 2 end their relationship with their ';parents'; as its an abomination 2 promote, participate in or accept these practices (Rom 1:24-32).
There is no good in any man (Rom 3:23). No1 can live without breaking God's eternal Law = sin that separates us from God. God cant look upon sin (why we need Jesus). God is the 1 who makes the rules %26amp; He created some 4 destruction. The crux of the problem 4 most humans is man (having limited knowledge) tries 2 understand what God is about by imposing human limitations 4 understand things 2 God's abilities. Who knows more about a house, the Builder or those moving in later?
God does nothing without a purpose. The institution of marriage btwn a man %26amp; a woman is what God set up 2 accomplish His purpose. God created Adam %26amp; Eve not Adam %26amp; Steve. More so than other things legitimizing gay behavior makes it appear 2 children (who r very impressionable) that nothing is wrong with being gay themselves. However, gay behavior/marriage is wholly %26amp; without exception an abomination (1 that God wont compromise on as He cant compromise the truth that stands 4ever unchanged (we r not allowed 2 either) %26amp; that cancels out ur salvation if u persist in it - we either imitate Jesus or we imitate animals on 1 level or another - doing so leads 2 a worse fate than animals b/c we can choose 2 turn 2 or reject God's Son).
God can forgive sinners which is why He sent His Son 2 die 4 all our sins. B/c God did this most loving thing 4 us %26amp; Jesus did all God commanded Him 2 do then all must go 2 Jesus 2 b saved from our sins (Jn 14:6; Acts 4:12) - turn our lives over 2 Jesus (no matter how or why we got in2 our sins - we're all sinners). This is b/c only thru Jesus can we b changed 2 whats acceptable 2 God, able 2 reject our unacceptable behavior. We cant change ourselves b/c we dont %26amp; cant know or understand God's purpose 4 creation without Jesus Christ opening our spiritual eyes 2 begin 2 know God %26amp; His purpose 4 everything (Jn 3:3,5; 5:39) - the only escape from our sins - If u remain in sin u cant enter Heaven.
But, no matter how much well-meaning people (religious or not) read the Bible they cant find Jesus Christ without going directly 2 Jesus thru His Biblical instructions (Jn 5:39; 10:1,7; 3:3,5). God outsmarted man - the Bible is the only 1 that cant be properly understood without Jesus (Jn 14:6; II Cor 3:14, Is 29:11-12 - If Jewish people cant pierce the veil over the OT without Jesus then 4 sure all gentiles cant). Thats why theres many interpretations %26amp; many thinking its fairy tales/a delusion (Jesus came bearing the sword of division).
The problem is theres many religions out there along with different varieties/offshoots. 1 day I realized they cant all b right (ie. theres 1 Bible, why so many interpretations? - II Pet 1:**19-21). Most religions came thru people who thought up things 4 a God they %26amp; others liked. Some realized religion could b good 2 control the masses %26amp; 4 other agendas. Religion wont teach you much about God (they cant teach what they dont know).
Religions made many fatal mistakes as they built their religions on what man would like God 2 b like. Many miss this - Jesus is the only 1 in history whom said He's ';the'; way, ';the'; truth %26amp; ';the'; life %26amp; NO 1 can know God except thru Jesus (Jn 14:6 - ref Acts 4:12; Jn 5:39; 10:1,7). This means ';the'; whole truth was complete %26amp; there4 finished thru what Jesus taught %26amp; did or God doesn't know what He's doing %26amp; cant be God. The truth is either fully true or its a lie. The full truth cant contain a lie %26amp; is the absence of any lie.
Either Jesus is the only full truth or theres no actual truth %26amp; there4 no God (God would have 2 know what Jesus was going 2 do). This means Jesus is whom He says He is or He's just another false prophet among many, whom should b disregarded. If He's the actual truth then theres no need 4 any NEW teaching. This means any so-called new teaching %26amp; any other religious beliefs %26amp;/or from self-proclaimed prophets or teachers r invalid, null %26amp; void %26amp; cant lead u 2 our real God. However, God always knew all Jesus was 2 do.
In fact, Jesus couldnt have done nor said what He did unless He fully knew the entire OT (the NT didnt exist @ the time of Jesus - only possible if God sent Him) %26amp; the Apostles couldnt write the NT unless Jesus allowed them 2 remember %26amp; know His purpose (Lk 24:25-27,45). Not possible unless God caused it.
A church thats very serious about finding the Biblical truth, understands what being Born Anew is about, might be able 2 help u but no1 can save u except Jesus (Jn 3:1-14 - note: Nicodemus was very religious but Jesus flatout told him he had missed the 1rst most important step, that he must b Born Anew or no matter how religious or good he thought he is he couldn't go 2 Heaven (Jn 3:3,5; Jn 14:6; Acts 4:12). Again, no1 can live without breaking God's Law = sin %26amp; separates us from God - only those who go thru Jesus can overcome this barrier %26amp; become legitimate children of God (why we must b Born Anew). Then read the whole Book of John b/c it connects 2 the whole Bible (leading 2 understanding other important things in the Bible).
Whoever seeks Jesus Christ, the Son of God, with all his heart %26amp; soul will find our real God %26amp; His Kingdom (u shall know the truth %26amp; it'll set u free). But u can lead a horse 2 water but u cant make them drink. Again, why should God want u 2 live with Him forever if u dont want 2 know Him (reason 4 free will)? The truth of God remains forever unchanged while things of man dies with him, including his religions %26amp; his gods, created in his image.
On 1 hand, God hates us b/c of our sins - neither being a good person as judged by men or religion can save u. On the other hand, God loves us dearly enough 2 send His Son 2 die for our sins - so that thru Jesus our sins could be forgiven if we sincerely turn to Him - Theres everlasting hope only in Jesus Christ %26amp; His Bible.
voyc4rmwldrnsChristians/believers? If your parents were a homosexual couple would you still love them and respect them?
That one's parent(s) are sinners is inevitable. All of our parents sin. Homosexuality is simply another sin. Homosexuals get out of alignment with the Church when they choose to redefine their life style as not a sin.
One cannot enter the kingdom of heaven lest he or she repents. One cannot repent if one denies an act is sin.
If parents must be without sin to be loved by their children, I'm afraid none of our children will be able to love us, nor will we be able to love our parents.
Grace and peace to all.
Absolutely.
One of my friends actually has two dads, and she's straight, happy, well-liked and her family is awesome. They're Jewish.
There are far, far fewer verses in the Bible condemning homosexuality than there are ones about divorce, and Jesus never once spoke out about gays, but he did say that divorce was wrong. There are many divorced Christian parents, and people don't usually ask their kids if they lack virtue or are unable to love and respect them.
You actually asked a real question. I'm shocked.
Of course.
Keep in mind that if you were born to, or adopted in early childhood by, a gay male couple or a lesbian couple, you would grow up not thinking there was anything wrong with homosexuality. You would grow up loving and respecting them as your PARENTS -- the people who loved you, took care of you, provided you with a loving home, a roof over your head, meals, all your material needs; the people who nursed you when you were sick, attended all of your Little League baseball games or piano recitals or school plays or whatever; the people who took you camping or to Disney World or to the zoo, etc.
They would have proven to you every day of your life that they are good, loving parents who brought you up as best they knew how and wanted only the best for you.
Why on earth would you suddenly stop loving them simply because you choose to become a fundamentalist Christian??
I would suspect that you wouldn't join a fundamentalist church, however, because you would KNOW from personal experience that gay and lesbian people are NOT the perverted sinners that some Christian churches accuse them of being. Why on earth would you choose to join a church that demonizes your PARENTS -- the 2 people you love most -- as unrepentant evil sinners bound for hell??
LOL! I would still love and respect them, I suppose, although I would view their lifestyle as immoral. I really liked the tongue in cheek reference to my virtuous religiosity-- that was clever.
peace
Personally,I would be confused.Just the same,I stand against homosexuals as as same sex marriage.
I am Atheist but even when I was Christian (how embarrassing, I was Christian) I was never prejudiced.
How to get my parents to let me live with my grandma?
I am unhappy where I live, and I want to go back home where I lived last year. I lived there for 14 years.
My grandma has offered to let me stay with her.How to get my parents to let me live with my grandma?
If you are very serious and have a valid reason to want to leave your parents house (abuse of some kind) your grandma must be willing to help you. Are your parents willing to give your grandma ';Legal Custody';?
Are they willing to do this or are they wanting you to stay with them?
Under certain circumstances, the courts will appoint a lawyer for you. This Lawyer would represent you and what is in your best interest.
I am not a lawyer and have no legal background but I am a grandma who is trying to help my grandson in this same situation. You should know that it can be a long and expensive struggle. You must have a very good reason for your request and it will be much easier if your parents are willing.How to get my parents to let me live with my grandma?
Write out a list of reasons why it would be better if you lived with your grandma. Things such as..., better neighborhood, better friends, more things to do, better school, etc.
Sit down with your mom or dad (whoever you have the best relationship with) and calmly express your feelings to them remembering to deep in mind their feelings too. They love you and want you with them, so try to be kind and don't make them feel rejected.
I'm sure your parents love you and want whats best for you, so if living with your grandma would be healthier and better for you, it will be easier to talk them into it. But be prepared, they may not want to let you go. If not I'm sure you all can work things out so that you can be happier right where you are. Joining new clubs or sports at school, new hobbies,or even a job. No matter what, you will be fine. Just keep a good attitude and be grateful for the good things.
Good luck!
My grandma has offered to let me stay with her.How to get my parents to let me live with my grandma?
If you are very serious and have a valid reason to want to leave your parents house (abuse of some kind) your grandma must be willing to help you. Are your parents willing to give your grandma ';Legal Custody';?
Are they willing to do this or are they wanting you to stay with them?
Under certain circumstances, the courts will appoint a lawyer for you. This Lawyer would represent you and what is in your best interest.
I am not a lawyer and have no legal background but I am a grandma who is trying to help my grandson in this same situation. You should know that it can be a long and expensive struggle. You must have a very good reason for your request and it will be much easier if your parents are willing.How to get my parents to let me live with my grandma?
Write out a list of reasons why it would be better if you lived with your grandma. Things such as..., better neighborhood, better friends, more things to do, better school, etc.
Sit down with your mom or dad (whoever you have the best relationship with) and calmly express your feelings to them remembering to deep in mind their feelings too. They love you and want you with them, so try to be kind and don't make them feel rejected.
I'm sure your parents love you and want whats best for you, so if living with your grandma would be healthier and better for you, it will be easier to talk them into it. But be prepared, they may not want to let you go. If not I'm sure you all can work things out so that you can be happier right where you are. Joining new clubs or sports at school, new hobbies,or even a job. No matter what, you will be fine. Just keep a good attitude and be grateful for the good things.
Good luck!
Can I take my parents to court and make them give custody to my friends dad?
Okay, I currently live with my dad but I don't really want to. He used to beat me physically but now he just beats me verbally. I don't want to live with my mom because she is always working. My best friends dad said that he would let me live with himself and my friend. I'll be 17 in May of next year. Is there anything I can do?Can I take my parents to court and make them give custody to my friends dad?
yes, you can you can take your parents to court and to ask your friends parents to legally adopt you, my firend did this becuase she was tired of her dad and her best friends family legally adpoted her in. It is possible, you just need to show your case in court and hsow how he has a history with physical abuse and now verbal, the judges will usually go for that]Can I take my parents to court and make them give custody to my friends dad?
hey Samantha G. i was wondering if you ever did take your parents to court and if it worked? i really hate living here and there are many reasons why! so, i was wondering if i could get some advise? please!
your mom can file for custody, but no you cannot ask the court to give you away to a stranger with no rights or responsibilities to you. you need to try to go back with mom. but rebellion and trying to make the courts give you to a pals family is a very wrong attitude. it will get you in a lot of trouble and i would highly reccommend you check yourself before you wreck yourself.
Yes, there's plenty you can do. Call up the youth crisis or just plain crisis line nearest you and explain the situation just as you have here. Ask what procedures are required to ensure that all relevant parties are properly notified. Your friend's father sounds like a nice guy but he needs to be fully aware of what his legal obligations will be toward you and so do all of you, in fact. It's not quite as simple as it sounds. The crisis people deal with this sort of thing all the time so they'll be able to help you find someone to represent you - probably a social worker from Child Services or the equivalent. Social worker once appointed will investigate and advise.
Good luck.
If your father is abusing you you should file a police report. Of course, what you see as being ';verrbally beaten'; a court may see as you getting yelled at when you mess up.
At 17 you can go to court and ask to be legally emancipated. To do so, though, you'll need to prove that you're finacially able to support yourself. (Not that a friends Dad is willing to support you)
Easier way is just to ask your parents for permission.
Richard
';The older my kids get, the smarter my father was';
Talk to a social worker or school counsoler and go to the state and get emancipated. You can make it so that you are your own legal guardian. I have a friend who is seventeen and legally their own guardian. You just have to show a judge due cause and show that you can be self sufficiant.
yes, you can you can take your parents to court and to ask your friends parents to legally adopt you, my firend did this becuase she was tired of her dad and her best friends family legally adpoted her in. It is possible, you just need to show your case in court and hsow how he has a history with physical abuse and now verbal, the judges will usually go for that]Can I take my parents to court and make them give custody to my friends dad?
hey Samantha G. i was wondering if you ever did take your parents to court and if it worked? i really hate living here and there are many reasons why! so, i was wondering if i could get some advise? please!
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your mom can file for custody, but no you cannot ask the court to give you away to a stranger with no rights or responsibilities to you. you need to try to go back with mom. but rebellion and trying to make the courts give you to a pals family is a very wrong attitude. it will get you in a lot of trouble and i would highly reccommend you check yourself before you wreck yourself.
Yes, there's plenty you can do. Call up the youth crisis or just plain crisis line nearest you and explain the situation just as you have here. Ask what procedures are required to ensure that all relevant parties are properly notified. Your friend's father sounds like a nice guy but he needs to be fully aware of what his legal obligations will be toward you and so do all of you, in fact. It's not quite as simple as it sounds. The crisis people deal with this sort of thing all the time so they'll be able to help you find someone to represent you - probably a social worker from Child Services or the equivalent. Social worker once appointed will investigate and advise.
Good luck.
If your father is abusing you you should file a police report. Of course, what you see as being ';verrbally beaten'; a court may see as you getting yelled at when you mess up.
At 17 you can go to court and ask to be legally emancipated. To do so, though, you'll need to prove that you're finacially able to support yourself. (Not that a friends Dad is willing to support you)
Easier way is just to ask your parents for permission.
Richard
';The older my kids get, the smarter my father was';
Talk to a social worker or school counsoler and go to the state and get emancipated. You can make it so that you are your own legal guardian. I have a friend who is seventeen and legally their own guardian. You just have to show a judge due cause and show that you can be self sufficiant.
Can a 17 yeard old stay ina a hotel aslong as the parents make reservations?
if 2 teens want to stay in a hotel but arent 18 yet..can they still aslong as the parents call and make a reservation for them?Can a 17 yeard old stay ina a hotel aslong as the parents make reservations?
Maybe. You'd have to call and ask, because there are other logistics to consider. Most hotel reservations are made with a credit card. When you check in they ask for photo identification and a credit card that they take an imprint of. If your parents are paying, then it takes away the problem that you aren't old enough to enter into a contract, but not the credit card on file in case of extra incidentals problem.
In general, Canadian hotels aren't as strict as American hotels are on the age thing. Many US hotels are 21 and over. Not so in Canada. however, policy will vary, and depend on things like, Hotel is an American chain and policy is dictated from head office, the hotel has had problems with youth in the past, or the area has had problems with youth in the past.Can a 17 yeard old stay ina a hotel aslong as the parents make reservations?
Most hotels as long as it's booked with a credit card won't ask questions, extra's if not paid at checkout will just charge it to the credit card. If you're just coming in off the street with a pocket full of cash they probably won't let you rent a room.
Most hotels... depending on where they are.
Want a 25 yr+ adult in the room, even if they are 18 or the parents rent the roomink refills
Maybe. You'd have to call and ask, because there are other logistics to consider. Most hotel reservations are made with a credit card. When you check in they ask for photo identification and a credit card that they take an imprint of. If your parents are paying, then it takes away the problem that you aren't old enough to enter into a contract, but not the credit card on file in case of extra incidentals problem.
In general, Canadian hotels aren't as strict as American hotels are on the age thing. Many US hotels are 21 and over. Not so in Canada. however, policy will vary, and depend on things like, Hotel is an American chain and policy is dictated from head office, the hotel has had problems with youth in the past, or the area has had problems with youth in the past.Can a 17 yeard old stay ina a hotel aslong as the parents make reservations?
Most hotels as long as it's booked with a credit card won't ask questions, extra's if not paid at checkout will just charge it to the credit card. If you're just coming in off the street with a pocket full of cash they probably won't let you rent a room.
Most hotels... depending on where they are.
Want a 25 yr+ adult in the room, even if they are 18 or the parents rent the room
Who has the right to claim a child whent the custodial parent doesn't work?
My husband is the noncustodial parent of a child, and he pays 100 percent of the support formula. The mom doesn't work, but she won't sign a form saying he can claim her as a dependent. She let her live-in boyfriend claim her this year. Does my husband have any rights automatically or de we have to take the mom to court to be able to claim his daughter?Who has the right to claim a child whent the custodial parent doesn't work?
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In 1994, Judge David Grey Ross, Commissioner of the Federal Office of Child Support Enforcement ordered the states to redo their child support guidelines, taking into account the custodial parent getting the deduction. As a result, he pays less child support, so you don't really have the grounds for the claim.
As for any other issues, including child support adjustments, go to Dads House in Yahoo Groups. There's an educational manual in the file section that can teach you what you need to know. Take the time to learn what you can and should do.
http://health.groups.yahoo.com/group/Dad鈥?/a>
http://tinyurl.com/GiveKidsAChoice
http://www.fathersandfamilies.org/
http://www.parentalalienation.org/Who has the right to claim a child whent the custodial parent doesn't work?
If the daugter lives with her, she has every right to claim her. Thats how it goes. I am a single mother, and I claim my son every year. There is no taking turns.
鈽尖樇鈽?br>
In 1994, Judge David Grey Ross, Commissioner of the Federal Office of Child Support Enforcement ordered the states to redo their child support guidelines, taking into account the custodial parent getting the deduction. As a result, he pays less child support, so you don't really have the grounds for the claim.
As for any other issues, including child support adjustments, go to Dads House in Yahoo Groups. There's an educational manual in the file section that can teach you what you need to know. Take the time to learn what you can and should do.
http://health.groups.yahoo.com/group/Dad鈥?/a>
http://tinyurl.com/GiveKidsAChoice
http://www.fathersandfamilies.org/
http://www.parentalalienation.org/Who has the right to claim a child whent the custodial parent doesn't work?
If the daugter lives with her, she has every right to claim her. Thats how it goes. I am a single mother, and I claim my son every year. There is no taking turns.
What do all new parents need as far as supplies for the baby?
Im going to have a baby soon and Im making a check list over everything needed like a crib,mattress,bedding,changing table/dresser,high chair etc What is everything I'll need? what could i be leaving out?What do all new parents need as far as supplies for the baby?
A diaper genie!!!!!! We got my aunt one for her baby shower and she says that is one of the best presents she got at that party.
Lots and lots and lots of wet wipes and diapers and baby powder.
You should get lots of soft, fleecy blankets that are crib-sized so you'll have plenty of extra clean ones, should the blankets in the crib get dirty frequently-- and they probably will.
As for the crib, i recommend those ones that change from a crib to a small bed. That way, when you're child gets old enough for a ';big boy/girl bed'; you'll already have one! It's going to be more expensive right now, but you'll save money in the long run.
Get bibs too. LOTS of bibs. You'll probably use a clean one for every meal as your baby gets old enough to eat stuff other than milk.
Teething rings are handy. They're these little soft-plastic things filled with water that you freeze. When your child is teething, you take them out of the freezer and they suck/chew on them. The cold soothes their gums better than anything.What do all new parents need as far as supplies for the baby?
You're right about the basics (crib, mattress, bedding, etc.). You definitely want to purchase items that can be used after babyhood and into adulthood. I've found a great item that is called a combo dresser. It has some features of a changing table, yet it looks like a dresser. Storage for this item is great. In my opinion, you really don't need a changing table and a dresser...one item can serve as both!
This is all I have ever needed for an infant:
a car seat
long sleeve and short sleeve shirts (we EC, but you're probably not, so onesies and footie pjs)
diapers (or if you EC just some undies or flatfolds)
blankets
socks
a mei tai carrier or ring sling
We don't use any of the other crap that everyone thinks they have to have (like cribs, swings, changing tables, high chairs, on and on and on)
Really a place for clothes, and a bed which will probably be with you for a while really is good right now. You will be surprised how much of the extra stuff you don't use. Other things, make sure you have diapers, wipes, dr brown or avent bottles, gas drops is a big one, infant tylenol, and a thermometer. People also forget the little things. A baby tub.
I went all out on getting things when I was pregnant and half of the things I didn't use. Start with the basics and as you see you need things buy them but I would save them money before you buy everything.
Some must haves:
clothes
Car seat
diapers/ wipes
bottles or brest pump!
lotion
baby wash
blankets
spit up rags
oh and try to get as much sleep as you can now!!! good luck and congrats!!!
bedding (bed, mattress, sheets etc)
clothes in 00000 0000 000 you dont know what size he'll be and when he gets bigger its good to have some backup clothes
nappies
wipes
pram
change table or mat
baby bath + supplies
a toy that plays music
and thats it really for the basics if your baby needs anything else he'll let you know, i bought all this baby lotion and baby powder and i havent used it
essentials are -
bottles and steralising equipment (if your bottle feeding obvz nuffin if your not) warm new born clothing. bibs. soothers if you want to use them. moses basket/crib/cot. baby bath or bath support for big bath. towels. nappies, nappy cream, changing mat, bouncy chair, pushchair, car seat (most hospitals wont let you out with out one) lots of blankets and bedding. i brought evrything for our baby in stages i had essintails first then brought things such as highchair, cot mobile, toys, bigger clothing when it was needed i foud this a lot easier.. hope this helps and good luck xx
breasts, car seat, some clothes suitable to weather, diapers, sling or carrier of some sort.
*is it because I said breasts first that I get a thumbs down, or is it because I didn't list all the stuff that is a waste of money like a crib, change table, blah blah blah?
A car seat is the number one item you will need. Onesies, pajamas, socks, bottles, blankets and of course a lot of LOVE!
diapers
diaper rash cream
shampoo
lotion
q-tips
baby wipes
bottles
bottle washer
there is a lot more than just furniture!!
Baby bed (bassinet or crib)
Baby bedding
Mattress
Clothing
Diapers
Wipes
Car seat
Baby bath tub
Swing
Bouncer
I couldnt live without his swing.
A diaper genie!!!!!! We got my aunt one for her baby shower and she says that is one of the best presents she got at that party.
Lots and lots and lots of wet wipes and diapers and baby powder.
You should get lots of soft, fleecy blankets that are crib-sized so you'll have plenty of extra clean ones, should the blankets in the crib get dirty frequently-- and they probably will.
As for the crib, i recommend those ones that change from a crib to a small bed. That way, when you're child gets old enough for a ';big boy/girl bed'; you'll already have one! It's going to be more expensive right now, but you'll save money in the long run.
Get bibs too. LOTS of bibs. You'll probably use a clean one for every meal as your baby gets old enough to eat stuff other than milk.
Teething rings are handy. They're these little soft-plastic things filled with water that you freeze. When your child is teething, you take them out of the freezer and they suck/chew on them. The cold soothes their gums better than anything.What do all new parents need as far as supplies for the baby?
You're right about the basics (crib, mattress, bedding, etc.). You definitely want to purchase items that can be used after babyhood and into adulthood. I've found a great item that is called a combo dresser. It has some features of a changing table, yet it looks like a dresser. Storage for this item is great. In my opinion, you really don't need a changing table and a dresser...one item can serve as both!
This is all I have ever needed for an infant:
a car seat
long sleeve and short sleeve shirts (we EC, but you're probably not, so onesies and footie pjs)
diapers (or if you EC just some undies or flatfolds)
blankets
socks
a mei tai carrier or ring sling
We don't use any of the other crap that everyone thinks they have to have (like cribs, swings, changing tables, high chairs, on and on and on)
Really a place for clothes, and a bed which will probably be with you for a while really is good right now. You will be surprised how much of the extra stuff you don't use. Other things, make sure you have diapers, wipes, dr brown or avent bottles, gas drops is a big one, infant tylenol, and a thermometer. People also forget the little things. A baby tub.
I went all out on getting things when I was pregnant and half of the things I didn't use. Start with the basics and as you see you need things buy them but I would save them money before you buy everything.
Some must haves:
clothes
Car seat
diapers/ wipes
bottles or brest pump!
lotion
baby wash
blankets
spit up rags
oh and try to get as much sleep as you can now!!! good luck and congrats!!!
bedding (bed, mattress, sheets etc)
clothes in 00000 0000 000 you dont know what size he'll be and when he gets bigger its good to have some backup clothes
nappies
wipes
pram
change table or mat
baby bath + supplies
a toy that plays music
and thats it really for the basics if your baby needs anything else he'll let you know, i bought all this baby lotion and baby powder and i havent used it
essentials are -
bottles and steralising equipment (if your bottle feeding obvz nuffin if your not) warm new born clothing. bibs. soothers if you want to use them. moses basket/crib/cot. baby bath or bath support for big bath. towels. nappies, nappy cream, changing mat, bouncy chair, pushchair, car seat (most hospitals wont let you out with out one) lots of blankets and bedding. i brought evrything for our baby in stages i had essintails first then brought things such as highchair, cot mobile, toys, bigger clothing when it was needed i foud this a lot easier.. hope this helps and good luck xx
breasts, car seat, some clothes suitable to weather, diapers, sling or carrier of some sort.
*is it because I said breasts first that I get a thumbs down, or is it because I didn't list all the stuff that is a waste of money like a crib, change table, blah blah blah?
A car seat is the number one item you will need. Onesies, pajamas, socks, bottles, blankets and of course a lot of LOVE!
diapers
diaper rash cream
shampoo
lotion
q-tips
baby wipes
bottles
bottle washer
there is a lot more than just furniture!!
Baby bed (bassinet or crib)
Baby bedding
Mattress
Clothing
Diapers
Wipes
Car seat
Baby bath tub
Swing
Bouncer
I couldnt live without his swing.
What is something you allow your kids to do that most parents would disapprove of?
What do you allow them to do? Why do you allow them to do it any why do you think most parents are wrong for not allowing it?What is something you allow your kids to do that most parents would disapprove of?
this is going to sound so petty but -- climb up the slide. as long as no one else is trying to go down the slide what is the big friggin deal?What is something you allow your kids to do that most parents would disapprove of?
I allow my boys who are now 11 and 12 to watch any kind of movies except of course XXX rated movies or movies that have alot of sex in them. But as for violence my boys have been watching Blade movies since they were 2 and 3 and have never had any problems. I know people that think I am terrible for allowing that. But oh well for them my kids also aren't afraid of the dark and know that stuff like that isn't real because my husband and I took the time to show them how they do some of those special affects in the horror movies. In fact my 12 year old has always loved scary movies.
When my son and I were at the laundromat a while back, he needed to go to the toilet. The toilets were about a hundred metres away, and he needed to cross a road (using a very safe crossing that we'd used together many times before). I let him go by himself. He made it back just fine. I imagine that would freak a lot of parents out.
Oh, and a few weeks ago, he wanted to find different ways to ride his bike down a short, steep hill. After doing it myself to show him how to keep his weight over the back of the bike so he wouldn't go over the bars when he hit the flat ground at the bottom of the hill, he had a few tries and made it down safely. Even the one time where he messed up his line and clipped his pedal on a rock and I thought for sure he'd come off, he managed to stay on and ride it out. Most parents (and by parents I mean mothers) would have kittens if they'd seen their kids doing that.
Amsam - For the longest time I've had a bug up my butt about not letting my kids ever climb up the slide, but you know what? You're right. As long as there's no kids trying to come down, what's the big deal?
I am the mom of a 15 year old and a 12 year old, both boys. Both boys are well behaved, do well in school and are well adjusted. One of the things my oldest son does that most parents would disapprove of is curse. It's never used in a negative connotation, usually only when he's re-telling something he saw on television, but I don't consider it a big deal, especially not given he's an honors student and an athlete. It's just not a big deal to me and I also feel that it's people who assign negative meaning to those words anyway, they're only words unless you give them meaning. He certainly hears it from me on occasion (and nearly EVERY TV show and movie out there). I figure if the worst thing my son ever does is use a curse word, then I've done a pretty damn good job. Plus he knows better than to use them around anyone but me or his friends, he's respectful of teachers and kids' moms and his grandparents.
I had one teacher get on to him for saying ';freaking';. She said it means the same thing as the other ';f'; word. During the course of the conversation she said ';crap'; and ';shoot'; and I said well, if I was going to use her logic, then she just cursed in front of me!! People are too small-minded and get hung up on things that really don't amount to anything.
I let my two 7 year olds stay up late on the weekends and nights that they don't have school the next day. They usually go to bed between midnight and 1. They always abide with a strict bed time during the week with no complaints, so I figure letting them 2 nights of no bed time is OK. Their grandparents think I'm crazy for letting them do this but I don't care. They are great kids and do great in school. They usually watch a movie, color, or read. I also have a 2 year old, so I also feel like it gives them a little break to do things they like to do without their little sister getting into the middle of it.
I use to have a list of them, but I can't remember many things off the top of my head. ... One of the big ones though is that I allow my daughter to call her father and I by our names. ... She doesn't do it often, but whenever she does I find comfort in knowing that she can say who she belongs to if she ever gets lost. Also, why should she have to call me a name different from what other people do?
It drives her father and some other people crazy. I really don't think it's a big deal. ... I don't think other parents are wrong for insisting that they be called ';mom'; and ';dad.'; That's just how they choose to raise their kids.
On the flip side, I can't stand being called ma'am! Grr, I get so upset when other people tell my daughter she has to say ';yes mam'; to me. I have many names: Michelle, Mom, Mother, Mommy, even ';Unfair Mom';. But mam is NOT one of my names. I am fine with someone who doesn't know my name calling me that. But if you know who I am - please use my name.
I allow my kids to make a lot more of their own decisions than most parents do. They are very young, only 2 and 4, so most people think I am crazy. I usually give them two options for the right answer, so it doesn't matter to me which one they choose. It is a great way to get them to cooperate while still feeling somewhat in control. We avoid a lot of power struggles with this strategy. All parent have the right to make their own decisions as to what is right for their own kids, so I would never say other parent are wrong for disagreeing with me. What works for some may not work for others.
I let my kids miss school for life enriching one time experiences that became available. It usually came with a price of them not being able to make up thier homework though, the kids always had a say in missing school for it or not though.
These are still some of the highlight memories of thier life, Im glad I was able to do it.
It was to go to work with me on some really exciting events that I was working at.
I taught our 4yo Kylie cross the street without help and now she goes alone to the store on the other side of the road. She can be trusted with money, because she knows how to count (to 100). We let her go to bed when she is tired and she doesn't have a bedtime, although most nights she goes to bed at 21:00-21:30. That seems reasonable to us. Kylie has her own cellphone and games and music on it. She can watch every movie she is interested in, regardless of the age recommended in the movie (without plain sexual movies - she is not interested at all). Kylie is allowed to play outside without supervision, because she is not a baby anymore, she can take care of herself while playing. It's not like she is doing something that requires adults. She can stay alone at home for a few hours without blowing the house up or getting kidnapped (in our own house...).
In general, we treat her like a person, not like a teddy bear.
I used to let my son have whatever he want. When he could walk I let him walk around restaurants or stores if he did not want to sit down. People didn't mind though because his skin was either a dark yellow/orange color or he was ';hooked up'; so they knew he was sick. But when he didn't have either, some people did get annoyed, but my son deserved every privilege he received. He went through a lot.
I don't really allow my daughter to do anything that is wrong, however, I hate it when I'm at the mall or a restaurant and you see the kids running around like crazy and screaming and the parents do nothing
this is going to sound so petty but -- climb up the slide. as long as no one else is trying to go down the slide what is the big friggin deal?What is something you allow your kids to do that most parents would disapprove of?
I allow my boys who are now 11 and 12 to watch any kind of movies except of course XXX rated movies or movies that have alot of sex in them. But as for violence my boys have been watching Blade movies since they were 2 and 3 and have never had any problems. I know people that think I am terrible for allowing that. But oh well for them my kids also aren't afraid of the dark and know that stuff like that isn't real because my husband and I took the time to show them how they do some of those special affects in the horror movies. In fact my 12 year old has always loved scary movies.
When my son and I were at the laundromat a while back, he needed to go to the toilet. The toilets were about a hundred metres away, and he needed to cross a road (using a very safe crossing that we'd used together many times before). I let him go by himself. He made it back just fine. I imagine that would freak a lot of parents out.
Oh, and a few weeks ago, he wanted to find different ways to ride his bike down a short, steep hill. After doing it myself to show him how to keep his weight over the back of the bike so he wouldn't go over the bars when he hit the flat ground at the bottom of the hill, he had a few tries and made it down safely. Even the one time where he messed up his line and clipped his pedal on a rock and I thought for sure he'd come off, he managed to stay on and ride it out. Most parents (and by parents I mean mothers) would have kittens if they'd seen their kids doing that.
Amsam - For the longest time I've had a bug up my butt about not letting my kids ever climb up the slide, but you know what? You're right. As long as there's no kids trying to come down, what's the big deal?
I am the mom of a 15 year old and a 12 year old, both boys. Both boys are well behaved, do well in school and are well adjusted. One of the things my oldest son does that most parents would disapprove of is curse. It's never used in a negative connotation, usually only when he's re-telling something he saw on television, but I don't consider it a big deal, especially not given he's an honors student and an athlete. It's just not a big deal to me and I also feel that it's people who assign negative meaning to those words anyway, they're only words unless you give them meaning. He certainly hears it from me on occasion (and nearly EVERY TV show and movie out there). I figure if the worst thing my son ever does is use a curse word, then I've done a pretty damn good job. Plus he knows better than to use them around anyone but me or his friends, he's respectful of teachers and kids' moms and his grandparents.
I had one teacher get on to him for saying ';freaking';. She said it means the same thing as the other ';f'; word. During the course of the conversation she said ';crap'; and ';shoot'; and I said well, if I was going to use her logic, then she just cursed in front of me!! People are too small-minded and get hung up on things that really don't amount to anything.
I let my two 7 year olds stay up late on the weekends and nights that they don't have school the next day. They usually go to bed between midnight and 1. They always abide with a strict bed time during the week with no complaints, so I figure letting them 2 nights of no bed time is OK. Their grandparents think I'm crazy for letting them do this but I don't care. They are great kids and do great in school. They usually watch a movie, color, or read. I also have a 2 year old, so I also feel like it gives them a little break to do things they like to do without their little sister getting into the middle of it.
I use to have a list of them, but I can't remember many things off the top of my head. ... One of the big ones though is that I allow my daughter to call her father and I by our names. ... She doesn't do it often, but whenever she does I find comfort in knowing that she can say who she belongs to if she ever gets lost. Also, why should she have to call me a name different from what other people do?
It drives her father and some other people crazy. I really don't think it's a big deal. ... I don't think other parents are wrong for insisting that they be called ';mom'; and ';dad.'; That's just how they choose to raise their kids.
On the flip side, I can't stand being called ma'am! Grr, I get so upset when other people tell my daughter she has to say ';yes mam'; to me. I have many names: Michelle, Mom, Mother, Mommy, even ';Unfair Mom';. But mam is NOT one of my names. I am fine with someone who doesn't know my name calling me that. But if you know who I am - please use my name.
I allow my kids to make a lot more of their own decisions than most parents do. They are very young, only 2 and 4, so most people think I am crazy. I usually give them two options for the right answer, so it doesn't matter to me which one they choose. It is a great way to get them to cooperate while still feeling somewhat in control. We avoid a lot of power struggles with this strategy. All parent have the right to make their own decisions as to what is right for their own kids, so I would never say other parent are wrong for disagreeing with me. What works for some may not work for others.
I let my kids miss school for life enriching one time experiences that became available. It usually came with a price of them not being able to make up thier homework though, the kids always had a say in missing school for it or not though.
These are still some of the highlight memories of thier life, Im glad I was able to do it.
It was to go to work with me on some really exciting events that I was working at.
I taught our 4yo Kylie cross the street without help and now she goes alone to the store on the other side of the road. She can be trusted with money, because she knows how to count (to 100). We let her go to bed when she is tired and she doesn't have a bedtime, although most nights she goes to bed at 21:00-21:30. That seems reasonable to us. Kylie has her own cellphone and games and music on it. She can watch every movie she is interested in, regardless of the age recommended in the movie (without plain sexual movies - she is not interested at all). Kylie is allowed to play outside without supervision, because she is not a baby anymore, she can take care of herself while playing. It's not like she is doing something that requires adults. She can stay alone at home for a few hours without blowing the house up or getting kidnapped (in our own house...).
In general, we treat her like a person, not like a teddy bear.
I used to let my son have whatever he want. When he could walk I let him walk around restaurants or stores if he did not want to sit down. People didn't mind though because his skin was either a dark yellow/orange color or he was ';hooked up'; so they knew he was sick. But when he didn't have either, some people did get annoyed, but my son deserved every privilege he received. He went through a lot.
I don't really allow my daughter to do anything that is wrong, however, I hate it when I'm at the mall or a restaurant and you see the kids running around like crazy and screaming and the parents do nothing
My 80 year old parents are in collections for credit card they never applied for. What do I do to help them?
This is obviously an identity theft. The collections agency according to them does not want to help them. They never got the bills before collection because, the address on the credit card is not theirs.My 80 year old parents are in collections for credit card they never applied for. What do I do to help them?
Their first actions should be to contact the police. Identity theft is a crime. It needs to be reported. Unfortunately, the collection agency does not have any responsibility to help them. Your parents need to report it to the police, then send the police report along with a ';cease and desist'; letter to the collection agency. Report the identify theft to the credit bureaus and put an alert with the credit bureaus so that they will have to contact your parents if anyone is trying to apply for credit using their information.My 80 year old parents are in collections for credit card they never applied for. What do I do to help them?
File the necessary fraud papers or forms of ID theft. The creditors should report a fraud warning on the credit report. They might have to do it themselves with the credit report and dispute. As long as that's the case, the signatures don't match and they are not legally responsible. There going to have to find the thieves and make them pay.
Unfortunately, the credit card company probably can't, or won't, do anything until you put this through the legal system. Your first step is to contact the police. Depending on who stole their identity and how it happened, Adult Protective Services may also be interested in getting involved.
Get in touch with the credit card company as well as your local fraud investigators. It's a pain in the asterisk but through a slow and painful process, you can get things cleared up.
Good luck - there is nothing more vile than people taking advantage of our seniors.
Their first actions should be to contact the police. Identity theft is a crime. It needs to be reported. Unfortunately, the collection agency does not have any responsibility to help them. Your parents need to report it to the police, then send the police report along with a ';cease and desist'; letter to the collection agency. Report the identify theft to the credit bureaus and put an alert with the credit bureaus so that they will have to contact your parents if anyone is trying to apply for credit using their information.My 80 year old parents are in collections for credit card they never applied for. What do I do to help them?
File the necessary fraud papers or forms of ID theft. The creditors should report a fraud warning on the credit report. They might have to do it themselves with the credit report and dispute. As long as that's the case, the signatures don't match and they are not legally responsible. There going to have to find the thieves and make them pay.
Unfortunately, the credit card company probably can't, or won't, do anything until you put this through the legal system. Your first step is to contact the police. Depending on who stole their identity and how it happened, Adult Protective Services may also be interested in getting involved.
Get in touch with the credit card company as well as your local fraud investigators. It's a pain in the asterisk but through a slow and painful process, you can get things cleared up.
Good luck - there is nothing more vile than people taking advantage of our seniors.
How to convince my parents to let me sell my ipod?
My parents say that i dont need a new ipod but i want to sell it!How to convince my parents to let me sell my ipod?
try to convince them ur really responsible so they will be impressed enough to let you. dont mention it again until they compliment you on how responsible you are being.How to convince my parents to let me sell my ipod?
Tell them you ll give them 10% OF THE MONEY
try to convince them ur really responsible so they will be impressed enough to let you. dont mention it again until they compliment you on how responsible you are being.How to convince my parents to let me sell my ipod?
Tell them you ll give them 10% OF THE MONEY
How do I break the news that I am pregnant to my parents?
I am about to be 28 years old and have been with my boyfriend for almost 5 years now, but we aren't married. I am not sure my parents would be exactly excited. We already struggle financially and I know that would be their biggest concern. How should I break the news?How do I break the news that I am pregnant to my parents?
I think you should tell them that you are pregnant and you both are very excited. They want their daughter to be happy. If they react worried about you being financially able address that when it happens, they could be just as excited for you both!
Also, maybe if you sit down and look at your finances and are able to give the multiple ways that you guys are going to make this work they will be relieved to know that you are making this a priority and have thought about this in a mature way.How do I break the news that I am pregnant to my parents?
I think that you and your boyfriend should look for a source of income that will help you through the pregnancy, delivery and the first year of the baby to say the least since this will be a major concern on your part. Talk to your boyfriend on how you will deal with the situation. I guess you guys are already mature enough to deal with this situation on your own. After you guys talk about your plans as a couple and as parents then the two of you can face your parents and his and tell them. I suggest that you guys do it in a public place. Show your parents that you guys are mature enough to handle things on your own and you're just sharing the good news with them and informing them of your plans so they don't have to worry. After all, having a baby is a huge responsibility of yours and your partner and not your parents. It's time to motivate yourself to be very responsible.
Don't listen to the idiots of the world. If you waited until you were ';financially ready'; to have a child, you never would. The species would end. I have never, ever heard of a savings fund created for the soul purpose of ';having a baby in the future';. You may save towards the future, but you will never save enough to have a child.
Take it one step at a time, and don't be afraid to go into charity shops, because a lot of clothing is never worn, tags still on, and cheap as anything, and you could get it.
Get larger items from friends, if their baby has grown out of moses baskets, cots etc and they are not going to use it again, offer to buy or take it off their hands for a little money. You will manage.
Your parents may worry slightly, but will probably be thrilled, after all, it was their parent's generation that would say ';just stick another tattie in the pot'; when their 12th child was born.
It is a modern concept that you must be rich to have children, they do not need gap, next, mammas and pappas, bugaboo frogs and such as like.
Poundstretcher, Peacocks, Ethel Austins, Argos, Charity Shops, Ikea do a cot for 拢20.00 - all these places were made for mums on a budget. Plus, if someone in the family says I want to buy some things for the baby is this ok? Tear their hand off!
Congratulations on your wonderful news.
I was in a similar situation. I had just quit my job to return to school for my masters. We were not yet married although we were planning to get married before finding out. He is our ';bread winner'; although, it's not much so financially speaking we weren't really ready yet. I think many couples aren't ready, but find a way to make it work. I think it is too simple for someone to say ';you have to be financially stable'; before having a baby. In my case, it was not a planned pregnancy-but a very wonderful surprise. We are adults and knew the consequences of our actions, but that didn't stop us and for the record I wouldn't change a thing about how it has all happened!
Now, as for how to tell your parents. I was at the dog park with my mom and our dogs. I knew it was a nice day, neutral ground, and I was so happy I didn't think it would go poorly. I simply asked my mom how she felt about being a ';real grammy'; (she hates that term, so that is what I call her when talking about my dog-to him she is his grammy.) She could feel my excitement and was very happy. Her main concern was that we were not married and what I would do about school. I told her that I was happy about the pregnancy and so was my boyfriend (now husband).
I sugguest you approach it when you think the time and situation (setting, surrounding) are right. Let your excitement show, if you paren't are only concerned about how you'll make it financially then I'm guessing they'll still be rather supportive. Life happens, and you can't stop it or worry about what others say. They may be shocked at first, but I would be willing to bet after the first few months they'll be very excited!
Good luck!
honestly, you should have thought about your financial situation before getting pregnant. Even if it was an accident just say to your parents that your really wanted a child and you think the right time is now, and that you are working on your financial situation. Whatever you say DO NOT let them know it was an accident, because it would just make them disappointed and probably unhappy about you.
I know exactally where your coming from!
Im 22 in a month and have been with my boyfriend for 5 years and we struggle financially day to day which stresses out my parents alot.
We have one son who is now 18months old and Im 6months pregnant again.
With my first son I didnt even tell them, they just kinda found out on their own.
I want to tell them this time so my only ideas are too either
a) try the A%26amp;W thing and tell them
or
b) get my son a little sweatshirt that says BIG BROTHER on it and let them notice it and then tell them.
Good luck
Wait until u get an ultrasound if u haven't done it yet. Then show them the picture,but do it over dinner.In a public restaurant so no one can make a scene. Buy them a gift that says something about being a grand parents. Get them a Mylar balloon that says congratulations. Then get a card that says your gonna be grand parents. Other than that find a settle way, but u have to do it the best way u see fit. Besides u are grown woman. U can get some help from welfare as soon as the baby comes. Medicaid will foot the bills for the hospital and medicines and medical needs for u and the child.
Ummmm. You're an adult. Are you scared they're going to ground you? They probably won't be happy about you not being married. But they probably will be very happy to have a grandbaby!
So here's how: ';Mom, Dad. I'm pregnant.';
just tell them bring your boyfriend with you. i think that at first they'll be worried and mad but than they'll be over joyed about it!
just tell them. they might not approve but theyll get over it and be excited!ink refills
I think you should tell them that you are pregnant and you both are very excited. They want their daughter to be happy. If they react worried about you being financially able address that when it happens, they could be just as excited for you both!
Also, maybe if you sit down and look at your finances and are able to give the multiple ways that you guys are going to make this work they will be relieved to know that you are making this a priority and have thought about this in a mature way.How do I break the news that I am pregnant to my parents?
I think that you and your boyfriend should look for a source of income that will help you through the pregnancy, delivery and the first year of the baby to say the least since this will be a major concern on your part. Talk to your boyfriend on how you will deal with the situation. I guess you guys are already mature enough to deal with this situation on your own. After you guys talk about your plans as a couple and as parents then the two of you can face your parents and his and tell them. I suggest that you guys do it in a public place. Show your parents that you guys are mature enough to handle things on your own and you're just sharing the good news with them and informing them of your plans so they don't have to worry. After all, having a baby is a huge responsibility of yours and your partner and not your parents. It's time to motivate yourself to be very responsible.
Don't listen to the idiots of the world. If you waited until you were ';financially ready'; to have a child, you never would. The species would end. I have never, ever heard of a savings fund created for the soul purpose of ';having a baby in the future';. You may save towards the future, but you will never save enough to have a child.
Take it one step at a time, and don't be afraid to go into charity shops, because a lot of clothing is never worn, tags still on, and cheap as anything, and you could get it.
Get larger items from friends, if their baby has grown out of moses baskets, cots etc and they are not going to use it again, offer to buy or take it off their hands for a little money. You will manage.
Your parents may worry slightly, but will probably be thrilled, after all, it was their parent's generation that would say ';just stick another tattie in the pot'; when their 12th child was born.
It is a modern concept that you must be rich to have children, they do not need gap, next, mammas and pappas, bugaboo frogs and such as like.
Poundstretcher, Peacocks, Ethel Austins, Argos, Charity Shops, Ikea do a cot for 拢20.00 - all these places were made for mums on a budget. Plus, if someone in the family says I want to buy some things for the baby is this ok? Tear their hand off!
Congratulations on your wonderful news.
I was in a similar situation. I had just quit my job to return to school for my masters. We were not yet married although we were planning to get married before finding out. He is our ';bread winner'; although, it's not much so financially speaking we weren't really ready yet. I think many couples aren't ready, but find a way to make it work. I think it is too simple for someone to say ';you have to be financially stable'; before having a baby. In my case, it was not a planned pregnancy-but a very wonderful surprise. We are adults and knew the consequences of our actions, but that didn't stop us and for the record I wouldn't change a thing about how it has all happened!
Now, as for how to tell your parents. I was at the dog park with my mom and our dogs. I knew it was a nice day, neutral ground, and I was so happy I didn't think it would go poorly. I simply asked my mom how she felt about being a ';real grammy'; (she hates that term, so that is what I call her when talking about my dog-to him she is his grammy.) She could feel my excitement and was very happy. Her main concern was that we were not married and what I would do about school. I told her that I was happy about the pregnancy and so was my boyfriend (now husband).
I sugguest you approach it when you think the time and situation (setting, surrounding) are right. Let your excitement show, if you paren't are only concerned about how you'll make it financially then I'm guessing they'll still be rather supportive. Life happens, and you can't stop it or worry about what others say. They may be shocked at first, but I would be willing to bet after the first few months they'll be very excited!
Good luck!
honestly, you should have thought about your financial situation before getting pregnant. Even if it was an accident just say to your parents that your really wanted a child and you think the right time is now, and that you are working on your financial situation. Whatever you say DO NOT let them know it was an accident, because it would just make them disappointed and probably unhappy about you.
I know exactally where your coming from!
Im 22 in a month and have been with my boyfriend for 5 years and we struggle financially day to day which stresses out my parents alot.
We have one son who is now 18months old and Im 6months pregnant again.
With my first son I didnt even tell them, they just kinda found out on their own.
I want to tell them this time so my only ideas are too either
a) try the A%26amp;W thing and tell them
or
b) get my son a little sweatshirt that says BIG BROTHER on it and let them notice it and then tell them.
Good luck
Wait until u get an ultrasound if u haven't done it yet. Then show them the picture,but do it over dinner.In a public restaurant so no one can make a scene. Buy them a gift that says something about being a grand parents. Get them a Mylar balloon that says congratulations. Then get a card that says your gonna be grand parents. Other than that find a settle way, but u have to do it the best way u see fit. Besides u are grown woman. U can get some help from welfare as soon as the baby comes. Medicaid will foot the bills for the hospital and medicines and medical needs for u and the child.
Ummmm. You're an adult. Are you scared they're going to ground you? They probably won't be happy about you not being married. But they probably will be very happy to have a grandbaby!
So here's how: ';Mom, Dad. I'm pregnant.';
just tell them bring your boyfriend with you. i think that at first they'll be worried and mad but than they'll be over joyed about it!
just tell them. they might not approve but theyll get over it and be excited!
What paperwork would be sufficient showing that I'm the custodial parent when I was not married to the father?
I got married recently and my husband is in the military. We are applying for on-post housing and one of the paperwork I need is custodial papers but I was never married to my son's father. I am currently receiving child support from him and I receive a montly child support statement. Would that be enough?What paperwork would be sufficient showing that I'm the custodial parent when I was not married to the father?
I have no custody order or child support order with my son's father...we were never married, we get along great and have always only needed a statement from him as to where my child lives, what he pays in support etc...You may only need the support order and his birth certificate however if you and his father get along ask him for a statement in regards to your son living with you full time, that there is no custody order but he pays X amount per month etc, having this statement comes in handy with schools etc as well.What paperwork would be sufficient showing that I'm the custodial parent when I was not married to the father?
You will need to request the actual order. Call the Child Support people and ask where you can obtain a copy of the order if you have lost the original. This will cost per page. Ask for the page detailing custodial and non custodial parent.
Call the county court house, they will be able to assist you.
yes it should be along side the child's birth certificate
I have no custody order or child support order with my son's father...we were never married, we get along great and have always only needed a statement from him as to where my child lives, what he pays in support etc...You may only need the support order and his birth certificate however if you and his father get along ask him for a statement in regards to your son living with you full time, that there is no custody order but he pays X amount per month etc, having this statement comes in handy with schools etc as well.What paperwork would be sufficient showing that I'm the custodial parent when I was not married to the father?
You will need to request the actual order. Call the Child Support people and ask where you can obtain a copy of the order if you have lost the original. This will cost per page. Ask for the page detailing custodial and non custodial parent.
Call the county court house, they will be able to assist you.
yes it should be along side the child's birth certificate
How can i help my parents become citizens,residents, or to get thier greencard?
Hi im 21 years old and a us citizen.I don't know a lot about the immigration laws. But both my parents have been living in the united states for 22 years and now that im 21 i heard i can help them get some sort of residency or green card? is this true? what can i do? do i need to hire a lawyer?
they don't have visas or anything they illegally immigrated here. is there anything i can do? please help me.How can i help my parents become citizens,residents, or to get thier greencard?
If they did not make a legal entry when they last entered the country, they are not eligible to get their status by remaining here. They will need to return to their country to obtain visas or wait and see if this administration does another ';amnesty';.How can i help my parents become citizens,residents, or to get thier greencard?
They have to go home and then you can sort this all out later.
You are 21. I suppose that you don't have $200K in savings, a house that you own and all of that.
Talk to a lawyer of course. If they are from some hispanic country they can just hang it up before being ripped off by the lawyer. If they are from most any other country on the planet you might be able to work it out.
They cannot change their status while they are living here illegally. They have to return to their home country and you can apply to sponsor them from there. Be aware they will face a 10 year ban on returning because they were here illegally for so long.
There is no way for them to get legal except by leaving the country.
They are illegal aliens and do need to return to their own country before you can do anything for them. Since you are 21, you can apply to sponsor them to come to the USA and go from there. You would personally have to prove financial responsibility for them via 3 years of back income tax statements.
Their records, as well as yours, have to be spotless.
they don't have visas or anything they illegally immigrated here. is there anything i can do? please help me.How can i help my parents become citizens,residents, or to get thier greencard?
If they did not make a legal entry when they last entered the country, they are not eligible to get their status by remaining here. They will need to return to their country to obtain visas or wait and see if this administration does another ';amnesty';.How can i help my parents become citizens,residents, or to get thier greencard?
They have to go home and then you can sort this all out later.
You are 21. I suppose that you don't have $200K in savings, a house that you own and all of that.
Talk to a lawyer of course. If they are from some hispanic country they can just hang it up before being ripped off by the lawyer. If they are from most any other country on the planet you might be able to work it out.
They cannot change their status while they are living here illegally. They have to return to their home country and you can apply to sponsor them from there. Be aware they will face a 10 year ban on returning because they were here illegally for so long.
There is no way for them to get legal except by leaving the country.
They are illegal aliens and do need to return to their own country before you can do anything for them. Since you are 21, you can apply to sponsor them to come to the USA and go from there. You would personally have to prove financial responsibility for them via 3 years of back income tax statements.
Their records, as well as yours, have to be spotless.
How can I get my parents to let me get a belly button piercing ?
I've wanted a belly button piercing since the beginning of summer. All my friends are getting them and my parents think that i`m too beautiful to get one -.- .. pfft.
How do I convince them to let me get one?How can I get my parents to let me get a belly button piercing ?
There really is no way to convince your parents..
Just say, that your gonna do it yourself, and then they will be so worried about you messing up, that they will take you to a professional to get it done.How can I get my parents to let me get a belly button piercing ?
Well, I can assure you that the argument of ';all of your friends'; getting them won't convince them. Don't get a piercing just because all of your friends are getting one. Don't be a follower.
ETA: Dear gawd, do not, under no uncertain terms, threaten your parents. If my son came to me and threatened that he'd pierce himself if I didn't take him to get a piercing then I'd let him pierce himself. And then I'd make him take the jewelry out and he'd be grounded.
Parents who love their children are not persuaded by babyish threats. Mamby pamby pseudo-parents who only care about being their kid's buddy, rather than a role model and guide, would respond to such threats. I prefer being a strong parent.
hi
Send your picture i will photoshop you with pierced belly
show it to yoru parent and get permission to do it
good day
How do I convince them to let me get one?How can I get my parents to let me get a belly button piercing ?
There really is no way to convince your parents..
Just say, that your gonna do it yourself, and then they will be so worried about you messing up, that they will take you to a professional to get it done.How can I get my parents to let me get a belly button piercing ?
Well, I can assure you that the argument of ';all of your friends'; getting them won't convince them. Don't get a piercing just because all of your friends are getting one. Don't be a follower.
ETA: Dear gawd, do not, under no uncertain terms, threaten your parents. If my son came to me and threatened that he'd pierce himself if I didn't take him to get a piercing then I'd let him pierce himself. And then I'd make him take the jewelry out and he'd be grounded.
Parents who love their children are not persuaded by babyish threats. Mamby pamby pseudo-parents who only care about being their kid's buddy, rather than a role model and guide, would respond to such threats. I prefer being a strong parent.
hi
Send your picture i will photoshop you with pierced belly
show it to yoru parent and get permission to do it
good day
How can I convince my parents to let me do gymnastics?
I am 15 and just started tumbling and to my supprise i am catching on rather quickly. However I am board with tumbling. I asked my parents if I could do gymnastics and they said they would only let me do tumbling. I watch all of the gymnastics classes while I am at my nclass and i get so jelous. The gym I go to for tumbling divides u up by age and skill level, so I will be with kids my age. How can I get my parents to let me do gymnastics?How can I convince my parents to let me do gymnastics?
Tell your parents that this is something you really enjoy and you would like to explore it a little more. You can get great friends that arent into things that are bad for your health. Gymnastics is a sport that can teach you not to give up even when things get hard. Explain to your parents why they should let you do it.How can I convince my parents to let me do gymnastics?
Your parents probably dont want to pay for expensive leotards and monthly fees until they know you like gymnastics. Ask the coach if you could do a trial class. For all you know, you might hate it because you've never tried and want to quit immediately.
try to have a really good reason for wanting to do it. And tell them about your passion for gymnastics. My parents always wanted me to stick with gymnastics but i couldn't because i love cheerleading so much.So that helped me.
Tell your parents that this is something you really enjoy and you would like to explore it a little more. You can get great friends that arent into things that are bad for your health. Gymnastics is a sport that can teach you not to give up even when things get hard. Explain to your parents why they should let you do it.How can I convince my parents to let me do gymnastics?
Your parents probably dont want to pay for expensive leotards and monthly fees until they know you like gymnastics. Ask the coach if you could do a trial class. For all you know, you might hate it because you've never tried and want to quit immediately.
try to have a really good reason for wanting to do it. And tell them about your passion for gymnastics. My parents always wanted me to stick with gymnastics but i couldn't because i love cheerleading so much.So that helped me.
How do you convince your parents that you are healthy when you can barely stand up?
I need to know this fast or my dad might send me away somewhere!How do you convince your parents that you are healthy when you can barely stand up?
Young lady...your dad is not stupid...he knows you need more help than he is able to give you...it will not work. Sweety, accept the help your dad wants to provide for you, he loves you and wants you to be well and happy.
You have been asking these type of questions for weeks now and you seriously need some professional help to get onto a good eating plan. If you keep up like this it can only end in tears.How do you convince your parents that you are healthy when you can barely stand up?
If you don't want them to send you away somewhere, then you must accept the fact that your are ill and take responsiblity for it. Actively look for an outpatient nutrition counselor then tell your dad that you realize that you are not healthy and want to do something about it. Give him the counselor's name you want to see and if he agrees then see the counselor.
Are you willing to go to a place where you can get help without having to leave home? Have you already tried that? You can tell him you will get help %26amp; go to a couselor if he just gives you that chance %26amp; you will go to couseling. Then do what you can to change so you are OK. Then make a plan that if you need to you will go to maybe a summer camp so you can plan it now so that you can learn to get healthier. They are not trying to hurt you but you know if he doesn't force you to get help you could be in trouble worst than having to go away. So be willing to see you are not thinking clearly but when you eat healthier you thoughts will be better %26amp; you will start getting better.
You are anorexic. You need to go to a clinic, get yourself treated and healthy again or you will die. You will die if you don't get help now. I think you have OCD as well, you need help, please get some.
Whene ever your around them be happy and hyper try your best to look normal then when they leave rest, this will only work for a little while but try your best
But if yo really need help then get it, why cant you stand...they'er just trying to look out for ya
i think maybe you should listen to your dad. if you can't stand up you are not healthy. get yourself help so you can enjoy your life.
you can barely stand up?
just say your legs hurt a little because you slept akwardly last night, and that youre really fine anyway?
:/ hope i helped
What is the reason you can barely stand up? It's doesn't sound like you're healthy. Your parents are looking out for you, tell them the truth.
It sounds like something is severly wrong with you (I'd kind of like to know). you should tell your dad he's probably just going to bring you to the hospital.
if you cant stand up is probably because a. your tired b. your bones or not getting enough calcium. or c. which is all of the above
asking a question like that just shows your starving for attention.
if you really didn't want help, you would know how to fool your parents.
You can't - parents know it all! They have known you since you were born, you can't fool them!!
If you're not really healthy then it will show no matter what you do.
Tell them u did so much excersiz that u cant stand up anymore.
You don't .. You get help and survive.
Seriously.. You just need help your parents will understand they want to help you!
If you can't stand up, you're definitely not healthy,
but say that uhh I don't know.
well honey if you can barely stand up most likely your not feeling well.
make-up is always the answer babe
Let your dad help you.. It sounds like you need it.
If you have half a brain you don't do something stupid like that.
Stick two broom handles up your jeans and pray for the best.
well if youre not to healthy then maybe you should go somewhere... but ask him if it can be nearby
but you do not sound healthy! if you can baely stand up maybe you are sick?
you dont.. you obviously need help.
why would u wish to prove your healthy when your not, maybe you need some help
umm lean against something and say see i can stand up fine!
just tell them your legs are sore from sport at school or something.
you dont
you shouldnt your not feeling good so... just go where ever
don't lie and see a doctor before you die
break your legs
Young lady...your dad is not stupid...he knows you need more help than he is able to give you...it will not work. Sweety, accept the help your dad wants to provide for you, he loves you and wants you to be well and happy.
You have been asking these type of questions for weeks now and you seriously need some professional help to get onto a good eating plan. If you keep up like this it can only end in tears.How do you convince your parents that you are healthy when you can barely stand up?
If you don't want them to send you away somewhere, then you must accept the fact that your are ill and take responsiblity for it. Actively look for an outpatient nutrition counselor then tell your dad that you realize that you are not healthy and want to do something about it. Give him the counselor's name you want to see and if he agrees then see the counselor.
Are you willing to go to a place where you can get help without having to leave home? Have you already tried that? You can tell him you will get help %26amp; go to a couselor if he just gives you that chance %26amp; you will go to couseling. Then do what you can to change so you are OK. Then make a plan that if you need to you will go to maybe a summer camp so you can plan it now so that you can learn to get healthier. They are not trying to hurt you but you know if he doesn't force you to get help you could be in trouble worst than having to go away. So be willing to see you are not thinking clearly but when you eat healthier you thoughts will be better %26amp; you will start getting better.
You are anorexic. You need to go to a clinic, get yourself treated and healthy again or you will die. You will die if you don't get help now. I think you have OCD as well, you need help, please get some.
Whene ever your around them be happy and hyper try your best to look normal then when they leave rest, this will only work for a little while but try your best
But if yo really need help then get it, why cant you stand...they'er just trying to look out for ya
i think maybe you should listen to your dad. if you can't stand up you are not healthy. get yourself help so you can enjoy your life.
you can barely stand up?
just say your legs hurt a little because you slept akwardly last night, and that youre really fine anyway?
:/ hope i helped
What is the reason you can barely stand up? It's doesn't sound like you're healthy. Your parents are looking out for you, tell them the truth.
It sounds like something is severly wrong with you (I'd kind of like to know). you should tell your dad he's probably just going to bring you to the hospital.
if you cant stand up is probably because a. your tired b. your bones or not getting enough calcium. or c. which is all of the above
asking a question like that just shows your starving for attention.
if you really didn't want help, you would know how to fool your parents.
You can't - parents know it all! They have known you since you were born, you can't fool them!!
If you're not really healthy then it will show no matter what you do.
Tell them u did so much excersiz that u cant stand up anymore.
You don't .. You get help and survive.
Seriously.. You just need help your parents will understand they want to help you!
If you can't stand up, you're definitely not healthy,
but say that uhh I don't know.
well honey if you can barely stand up most likely your not feeling well.
make-up is always the answer babe
Let your dad help you.. It sounds like you need it.
If you have half a brain you don't do something stupid like that.
Stick two broom handles up your jeans and pray for the best.
well if youre not to healthy then maybe you should go somewhere... but ask him if it can be nearby
but you do not sound healthy! if you can baely stand up maybe you are sick?
you dont.. you obviously need help.
why would u wish to prove your healthy when your not, maybe you need some help
umm lean against something and say see i can stand up fine!
just tell them your legs are sore from sport at school or something.
you dont
you shouldnt your not feeling good so... just go where ever
don't lie and see a doctor before you die
break your legs
Is it illegal for a parent to kick their teen kids outta the house?
This question has nothing to do with me. I was just wondering.
You know how some kids parents kick them out of the house, well is that even legal?Is it illegal for a parent to kick their teen kids outta the house?
Honestly no it is not legal. If they are under the age of 18 the kids are not even allowed to run away. If the parent kicks them out before they are 18 they better be aware of the conciquences there will be. Like paying for any damage the kid does while out.Is it illegal for a parent to kick their teen kids outta the house?
if there under 18 yea, cuz it would be endangerment of child, its a actual law
Have to deal with them until 18 =).
I think that could be considered child neglect. But I never hear about any parents being punished for it.
with no place to go? yes it is. They can however elect to put them in foster care.
you can leave them at an orphanage, but you cant kick them out unless their 18 or older
hopefully cuz my moms is mad close 2 kickin me out....
yes it is. you have to go to court and surrender your rights and they child is either put in to foster care or given to the other parent or a guardian.
of if they child is able they can become emancipated.
it's not at all legal.
Yes.. You are responsible for your child until they turn 18
sadly yes, but on the brighter note it is still legal to beat them in most states. I would check up on your states laws about beating children there are some fine lines to be walked on.. and beat them to the limit
it depends on the state you live in...however, if a parent is upset enough to kick their teen out, they should go to a counsellor and tell them about the anger and get help for them and the teen...families should stick together and help one another...the world is bad enough without fighting at home...
if the teen is 18 or 19 then yes they can
idk but i know it not good.and i think it is.
I don't think a parent, can boot a child out of the house, but it depends on age and circumstance.
If a child of mine refused to obey, and they were under 18, they would be sent to live with one of my siblings and theirs to me. We already had this arranged, when the kids were in diapers.
I live in a totally different state than my brother and sister. They in turn, live on opposite sides of the same state. We figured that the kids friends may influence them, towards unacceptable practices. So that's why we came up with the move em' around idea.
My sister had to send her 14 year old ';I'm gonna do what I want'; daughter to my brothers. She was sneaking out of the house at all hours and couldn't control her.
Well, after moving her close to 400 miles, that stopped. It seems her friends couldn't or wouldn't, get rides to visit her. As she was new to my brothers area, she had no where to go. Plus my brother is a bit of an ******, so she wasn't going to cross him.
She lived with him for almost a year, went back home and morphed into a young lady, instead of a hellion.
Now, if their 18 years old, they better watch the old P's and Q's, or their sleeping in a dumpster.
If it's under 18 yes it is. If it's 18 and over then no it isn't illegal.
They can. I think they can declair their teen an ';At risk'; person and they will be put into foster care. The teen can also find another home.
If the teen is 18...then they are considered and adult and parents can demand they leave to start their own adult life.ink refills
You know how some kids parents kick them out of the house, well is that even legal?Is it illegal for a parent to kick their teen kids outta the house?
Honestly no it is not legal. If they are under the age of 18 the kids are not even allowed to run away. If the parent kicks them out before they are 18 they better be aware of the conciquences there will be. Like paying for any damage the kid does while out.Is it illegal for a parent to kick their teen kids outta the house?
if there under 18 yea, cuz it would be endangerment of child, its a actual law
Have to deal with them until 18 =).
I think that could be considered child neglect. But I never hear about any parents being punished for it.
with no place to go? yes it is. They can however elect to put them in foster care.
you can leave them at an orphanage, but you cant kick them out unless their 18 or older
hopefully cuz my moms is mad close 2 kickin me out....
yes it is. you have to go to court and surrender your rights and they child is either put in to foster care or given to the other parent or a guardian.
of if they child is able they can become emancipated.
it's not at all legal.
Yes.. You are responsible for your child until they turn 18
sadly yes, but on the brighter note it is still legal to beat them in most states. I would check up on your states laws about beating children there are some fine lines to be walked on.. and beat them to the limit
it depends on the state you live in...however, if a parent is upset enough to kick their teen out, they should go to a counsellor and tell them about the anger and get help for them and the teen...families should stick together and help one another...the world is bad enough without fighting at home...
if the teen is 18 or 19 then yes they can
idk but i know it not good.and i think it is.
I don't think a parent, can boot a child out of the house, but it depends on age and circumstance.
If a child of mine refused to obey, and they were under 18, they would be sent to live with one of my siblings and theirs to me. We already had this arranged, when the kids were in diapers.
I live in a totally different state than my brother and sister. They in turn, live on opposite sides of the same state. We figured that the kids friends may influence them, towards unacceptable practices. So that's why we came up with the move em' around idea.
My sister had to send her 14 year old ';I'm gonna do what I want'; daughter to my brothers. She was sneaking out of the house at all hours and couldn't control her.
Well, after moving her close to 400 miles, that stopped. It seems her friends couldn't or wouldn't, get rides to visit her. As she was new to my brothers area, she had no where to go. Plus my brother is a bit of an ******, so she wasn't going to cross him.
She lived with him for almost a year, went back home and morphed into a young lady, instead of a hellion.
Now, if their 18 years old, they better watch the old P's and Q's, or their sleeping in a dumpster.
If it's under 18 yes it is. If it's 18 and over then no it isn't illegal.
They can. I think they can declair their teen an ';At risk'; person and they will be put into foster care. The teen can also find another home.
If the teen is 18...then they are considered and adult and parents can demand they leave to start their own adult life.
How little money do my parents have to make for me to receive aid on the FAFSA?
The amount we entered that they made in 1 year is $60,000. 4 dependents. Will I get the grant?How little money do my parents have to make for me to receive aid on the FAFSA?
There is no way to tell without filling out the application first. You WILL be offered Stafford loans, so don't worry you won't get any money, because you will!!!How little money do my parents have to make for me to receive aid on the FAFSA?
You can't tell for sure, because it depends on other factors, such as the number of people in your family who attend college among other factors.. your safest bet is to apply because even if you don't get money from the federal gov't, you can still get money from the state and most importantly your school, because many schools use FAFSA to determine your eligibility for scholarships. So your income might not get you Fed (Pell) grants, but it might get you money from your school of choice.
and remember for a better chance of getting money, check the deadline dates for your school of choice and your state.
For state deadlines scroll down the end of this page:
http://www.fafsa.ed.gov/before003a.htm
careers.scienceontheweb.net - try this site. It has info about different US scholarships for college students and their grades requirements.
There is no way to tell without filling out the application first. You WILL be offered Stafford loans, so don't worry you won't get any money, because you will!!!How little money do my parents have to make for me to receive aid on the FAFSA?
You can't tell for sure, because it depends on other factors, such as the number of people in your family who attend college among other factors.. your safest bet is to apply because even if you don't get money from the federal gov't, you can still get money from the state and most importantly your school, because many schools use FAFSA to determine your eligibility for scholarships. So your income might not get you Fed (Pell) grants, but it might get you money from your school of choice.
and remember for a better chance of getting money, check the deadline dates for your school of choice and your state.
For state deadlines scroll down the end of this page:
http://www.fafsa.ed.gov/before003a.htm
careers.scienceontheweb.net - try this site. It has info about different US scholarships for college students and their grades requirements.
How do I get my parents to think seriously about my headaches?
They think that my headaches will eventually pass. but i get them every single day. i have glasses. don't need new ones so soon.How do I get my parents to think seriously about my headaches?
You might have Eustachian tube (ear) problems as well as circulation problems that could be causing your headaches. If you need to put on a performance to get their attention, then it's worth it for you to ';act'; so they get the picture.
You should hold your head constantly, try to cry, complain of blurry vision, lay down and tell them your head hurts too much and anything else you can think of. once they get the picture that you are worried about them, they will have you see your doctor. When you see your doctors, tell them everything that you've noticed that triggers the headaches. Write down all the things that you are doing when the headache starts. Good luckHow do I get my parents to think seriously about my headaches?
If I were you, I would go talk to the school nurse. Explain everything to her and maybe she can help persuade your parents.
Good luck!
You might have Eustachian tube (ear) problems as well as circulation problems that could be causing your headaches. If you need to put on a performance to get their attention, then it's worth it for you to ';act'; so they get the picture.
You should hold your head constantly, try to cry, complain of blurry vision, lay down and tell them your head hurts too much and anything else you can think of. once they get the picture that you are worried about them, they will have you see your doctor. When you see your doctors, tell them everything that you've noticed that triggers the headaches. Write down all the things that you are doing when the headache starts. Good luckHow do I get my parents to think seriously about my headaches?
If I were you, I would go talk to the school nurse. Explain everything to her and maybe she can help persuade your parents.
Good luck!
How do i tell my parents i wan to join the military?
Ok i am 19 and engaged and my fiance is pregnant with our first child. And well i want to join the army and serve. But my parents will be livid with me and upset, and i don't want to upset them but i have like this urning to serve. My fiancee dose not want me to either and when i told her she started crying and i don't understand that. This is all i have ever wanted to do. Advice?How do i tell my parents i wan to join the military?
I would start the conversation with all the benefits. It you join the Army reserves(my friends in it) you go to school while you are enlisted, They pay for it all. And you get paid more for having a child and also if you decide to marry. Your family will received free insurance. All you would have to do is commit a few weekends every couple of months to them. If you contact a recruiter they can help you start the conversation. Just make sure you do what is right for you. You only live once!How do i tell my parents i wan to join the military?
If you really want to join you should explain to your fiancee why you want to join. she probably started to cry because joining the army is a serious thing, especially since she is pregnant and if you join, you won't be able to always be there for her. but also explain to your parents why you want to join. my brother was in the army and im so proud of him. if you do join, stay safe and best of luck. :)
hope this helped.
Just come out and tell them. Maybe ask them to dinner, or just sit down to talk to them .You are 19, it is perfectly your choice. They are your parents and I am sure they will love you either way!
This is classic. Good ole Homefront series type stuff. Good for you, Jodi. Do it.
you are 19....just tell them!! It's your fiance that you need to convince.
I would start the conversation with all the benefits. It you join the Army reserves(my friends in it) you go to school while you are enlisted, They pay for it all. And you get paid more for having a child and also if you decide to marry. Your family will received free insurance. All you would have to do is commit a few weekends every couple of months to them. If you contact a recruiter they can help you start the conversation. Just make sure you do what is right for you. You only live once!How do i tell my parents i wan to join the military?
If you really want to join you should explain to your fiancee why you want to join. she probably started to cry because joining the army is a serious thing, especially since she is pregnant and if you join, you won't be able to always be there for her. but also explain to your parents why you want to join. my brother was in the army and im so proud of him. if you do join, stay safe and best of luck. :)
hope this helped.
Just come out and tell them. Maybe ask them to dinner, or just sit down to talk to them .You are 19, it is perfectly your choice. They are your parents and I am sure they will love you either way!
This is classic. Good ole Homefront series type stuff. Good for you, Jodi. Do it.
you are 19....just tell them!! It's your fiance that you need to convince.
What do you think of parents who throw their only child a birthday party every year?
The child is now 16 is having a big sweet sixteen bash this year.What do you think of parents who throw their only child a birthday party every year?
I don't see anything wrong with it as long as the child isn't a spoiled, selfish, brat. A birthday only happens once a year so it makes sense to have a party every year.What do you think of parents who throw their only child a birthday party every year?
I'm not sure I understand the question. Are you talking about like a big party out somewhere every year? Because my family has always had birthday parties for each of us (4 kids) every year, and I continue that tradition for both of my kids - but the parties are usually at our house and just for close friends and relatives. I never saw anything wrong with that. Big, fancy parties (like out at a restaurant or somewhere or sleepover parties) are reserved for special birthdays like 16 though.
Am I missing something - should birthday parties be rationed for only children? Well my son is an only child, and whether he gets siblings or not he will be getting a birthday party every year until he asks me to stop or gets old enough to throw his own, whichever comes first. As far as I was aware, that was just normal.
No problems here. I had birthdays parties all time growing up. They started off as the usual kid parties then about 10 or 11 its was sleep overs with all my girlfriends. I also had a huge 15 birthday celebration it was held at a dance hall with over 300 guest. Yes i am an only child. I also have yearly birthdays for my 4 kids. i see nothing wrong in it. Once my kids turn 5 they are given a choice as what to do for their birthday. For example when my son turned 6 he picked who he wanted to go with the family and he picked the activity. He choose to go bowling so thats what we did.
I don't see anything wrong with it. I was an only child and we did a party every year to celebrate. It wasn't always big and fancy, but we celebrated. My sweet 16 was actually a murder mystery dinner theatre with like 10 of my closest friends.....it was costly, but you only turn 16 once.
i throw both of my children a birthday party every year. well this year will be my daughters first birthday. i will do this as long as they want a party. if they get too old and don't want one we'll just have a family dinner out somewhere. it's really up to them when they want to stop having them.
I think it's just fine. Personally, I think birthday parties should be a private family affair except for hallmark dates, but some people have large families and want to celebrate with everyone. Fine, go ahead, but don't whine to me that you don't have any money.
My parents had two kids and throw us a birth day party every year.
My friend has four and throws them each one each year. It is a birthday. If you can afford a party go for it even if you don't your birthday needs to be acknowledged in some way
It's fine with me. If I only had one child, two or even three, I would make sure my child has a birthday party every year, small or big as long as it is a party with family and friends to celebrate with.
I see nothing wrong with a yearly birthday party. I've never seen any sense in a Sweet 16 party but nothing wrong with it.
i think that its fine. if they have the money then let them do it. Its their only child, of course they are going to spoil it.
Absolutely nothing. I have 5 kids and throw them all a party each year.
Why wouldn't a parent throw a party for their child's birthday?
Whether they have one or a dozen?
It depends on the kid's personality. If they like big parties go ahead. JUST LISTEN TO THEM IF THEY DON'T WANT A PARTY
If my child wants a birthday party every year, she'll get it. Only child or not. :)
Same thing as I think of Parents of 5 throwing a Birthday Party for each of their children every year....Just awesome.
I dont see anything wrong with it. After 16 it would start getting a little stupid though.
I don't think anything at all of it, it's normal even if you have more then one child
Why not? It is a celebration of their birth. I'll be celebrating my kids' birthdays with them until I die!
My kids have party every year. What's wrong with that?
I don't see anything wrong with it as long as the child isn't a spoiled, selfish, brat. A birthday only happens once a year so it makes sense to have a party every year.What do you think of parents who throw their only child a birthday party every year?
I'm not sure I understand the question. Are you talking about like a big party out somewhere every year? Because my family has always had birthday parties for each of us (4 kids) every year, and I continue that tradition for both of my kids - but the parties are usually at our house and just for close friends and relatives. I never saw anything wrong with that. Big, fancy parties (like out at a restaurant or somewhere or sleepover parties) are reserved for special birthdays like 16 though.
Am I missing something - should birthday parties be rationed for only children? Well my son is an only child, and whether he gets siblings or not he will be getting a birthday party every year until he asks me to stop or gets old enough to throw his own, whichever comes first. As far as I was aware, that was just normal.
No problems here. I had birthdays parties all time growing up. They started off as the usual kid parties then about 10 or 11 its was sleep overs with all my girlfriends. I also had a huge 15 birthday celebration it was held at a dance hall with over 300 guest. Yes i am an only child. I also have yearly birthdays for my 4 kids. i see nothing wrong in it. Once my kids turn 5 they are given a choice as what to do for their birthday. For example when my son turned 6 he picked who he wanted to go with the family and he picked the activity. He choose to go bowling so thats what we did.
I don't see anything wrong with it. I was an only child and we did a party every year to celebrate. It wasn't always big and fancy, but we celebrated. My sweet 16 was actually a murder mystery dinner theatre with like 10 of my closest friends.....it was costly, but you only turn 16 once.
i throw both of my children a birthday party every year. well this year will be my daughters first birthday. i will do this as long as they want a party. if they get too old and don't want one we'll just have a family dinner out somewhere. it's really up to them when they want to stop having them.
I think it's just fine. Personally, I think birthday parties should be a private family affair except for hallmark dates, but some people have large families and want to celebrate with everyone. Fine, go ahead, but don't whine to me that you don't have any money.
My parents had two kids and throw us a birth day party every year.
My friend has four and throws them each one each year. It is a birthday. If you can afford a party go for it even if you don't your birthday needs to be acknowledged in some way
It's fine with me. If I only had one child, two or even three, I would make sure my child has a birthday party every year, small or big as long as it is a party with family and friends to celebrate with.
I see nothing wrong with a yearly birthday party. I've never seen any sense in a Sweet 16 party but nothing wrong with it.
i think that its fine. if they have the money then let them do it. Its their only child, of course they are going to spoil it.
Absolutely nothing. I have 5 kids and throw them all a party each year.
Why wouldn't a parent throw a party for their child's birthday?
Whether they have one or a dozen?
It depends on the kid's personality. If they like big parties go ahead. JUST LISTEN TO THEM IF THEY DON'T WANT A PARTY
If my child wants a birthday party every year, she'll get it. Only child or not. :)
Same thing as I think of Parents of 5 throwing a Birthday Party for each of their children every year....Just awesome.
I dont see anything wrong with it. After 16 it would start getting a little stupid though.
I don't think anything at all of it, it's normal even if you have more then one child
Why not? It is a celebration of their birth. I'll be celebrating my kids' birthdays with them until I die!
My kids have party every year. What's wrong with that?
If I sign a lease for an apartment for my boyfriend will my parents find out?
My friend is 18 years old and her boyfriend is getting an apartment. He doesn't have a job so he needs her to sign the lease forms for him. She lives at home, and if her parents found out they would be very upset. If she signs this lease, will there be a change in her insurance or will her parents be notified at all? Thanks!If I sign a lease for an apartment for my boyfriend will my parents find out?
Katherine, Home insurance is actually very flexible. I'm not familiar with all the details of my policy, but my homeowners insurance agent is always helpful. Try contacting your agent or a agent in your area. http://www.usinsuranceadvisor.com/Home-Insurance.html They will be able to help you.If I sign a lease for an apartment for my boyfriend will my parents find out?
If she signs the lease for him, she's agreeing to pay the rent if he can't. Does she earn enough money to do that?
For that matter, does she have a good enough credit rating for the landlord to agree to rent an apartment to her? Most 18-year-olds don't.
Not to mention that, unless the landlord lives very far away, he's eventually going to figure out that there's a slacker boy living in his apartment instead of the hard-working girl he thought he was renting to. At that point, he'd be fully justified in kicking the boy out *and* making the girl uphold the financial end of the lease *she* signed.
All in all, it's a really bad idea. Most illegal schemes are. I hope your friend reconsiders.
no but it will reflect poorly on her credit if the boyfriend defaults. It would be very stupid of her to do this. She is 18 so she can do what she wants but if you have to hide it from her parents then you have to think it isn't very wise to do this.
Katherine, Home insurance is actually very flexible. I'm not familiar with all the details of my policy, but my homeowners insurance agent is always helpful. Try contacting your agent or a agent in your area. http://www.usinsuranceadvisor.com/Home-Insurance.html They will be able to help you.If I sign a lease for an apartment for my boyfriend will my parents find out?
If she signs the lease for him, she's agreeing to pay the rent if he can't. Does she earn enough money to do that?
For that matter, does she have a good enough credit rating for the landlord to agree to rent an apartment to her? Most 18-year-olds don't.
Not to mention that, unless the landlord lives very far away, he's eventually going to figure out that there's a slacker boy living in his apartment instead of the hard-working girl he thought he was renting to. At that point, he'd be fully justified in kicking the boy out *and* making the girl uphold the financial end of the lease *she* signed.
All in all, it's a really bad idea. Most illegal schemes are. I hope your friend reconsiders.
no but it will reflect poorly on her credit if the boyfriend defaults. It would be very stupid of her to do this. She is 18 so she can do what she wants but if you have to hide it from her parents then you have to think it isn't very wise to do this.
How to convince your parents to buy you a dirt bike?
My parents say i have no were to ride one but i say i could go to the local tracks within 30 miles i have 3. also down the street from me are the powerlines under there is already tracks made from dirt bikes is that legal? please answer.How to convince your parents to buy you a dirt bike?
get it by yourself, save up and buy one, then they will have to let you ride.How to convince your parents to buy you a dirt bike?
Power lines are fin i ride through the ones in my town ALLLL the time. theres cops that patrol the ones in my town but usually if you have a license to drive it and arnt being reckless then they dont care.
Tell them that your friends have a lot of open property, and they ride every once and a while, but tell them a disadvantage to like they mostly ride atvs...Trust me it will work!
tell em ull drop out if u cant git oneink refills
get it by yourself, save up and buy one, then they will have to let you ride.How to convince your parents to buy you a dirt bike?
Power lines are fin i ride through the ones in my town ALLLL the time. theres cops that patrol the ones in my town but usually if you have a license to drive it and arnt being reckless then they dont care.
Tell them that your friends have a lot of open property, and they ride every once and a while, but tell them a disadvantage to like they mostly ride atvs...Trust me it will work!
tell em ull drop out if u cant git one
How long can a parent stay in denial?
When it comes to coming out to a parent, of course some parents get into denial.. And later on once they get out of denial they either accept it or they don't.. But honestly, how long can a parent stay in this denial phase? Can it be years? And how would the parent get out of it? What kind of reality check does the parent need?
In a personal question now, what would introducing my gf do to my mom who's in denial? How would it affect the whole denial thing? Would it put her out of the denial state or make it worst? This step needs to be taken someday!How long can a parent stay in denial?
First, I think all people have some type of trouble with their parents. Second, I think your mom probably just wants the best for you and if you can find someway to show her that the best for you is being gay than that should take her out of denial!
Third, I really cant see how showing your gf to your mom could make things worse, so go ahead and do it:DHow long can a parent stay in denial?
She's in denial for a reason. She probably had dreams for you or she probably has social fears about you. I'd say that you should either introduce your girlfriend and make her review her plans or you can wait to move out.
Depends on your age how well it will go.
Contact pflag,org and take your mom to a meeting - if you have a chapter locally. Don't tell her what it's about ahead of time. SHe will meet other parents could had trouble dealing with a gay kid too. She will get lots of help. HUGS
I think it's best to give your mom time.... There's no specfic timeframe... But you'll know when it's time. It's one of those cliches, but it's true...
I think nobody can stay in denial for that long. Ahuh I think if you introduce her your gf it might help.
as long there will not allow them to open
Well tbh there is no ';lenght of time'; that a parent can stay in denial. Some parents take their children coming out to them like a breath of fresh air while others find it incredibly difficult to understand or accept.
But you need to bear in mind that our parents came from a generation very different from ours. Some parents grew up in the 1970's or ever slightly later where homosexuality was considered a ';sin';. You also need to keep in mind that the Church has had an incredibly powerful influence on alot of people's lives and religion was very dominant in the last century particularly after the second world war so alot of it's teaching would have been respected and upheld regardless of people individual opinions. So our parents are battling with alot when it comes to accepting our sexuality. They have to contend with what has been rammed down their throats by the chatholic church, they have to deal with the possiblity of not having grandchildren that they had hoped for and they worry that they have ';failed'; as parents and may keep looking for reasons for your sexuality. With all these elements taken into consideration the denial phase can last from 1 day to 1 month to 1 year to 1 lifetime and I'm afraid it's up to the parent to get out of it themselves and that's only if they can. There is no reality check that they can get tbh cause maybe for them it's ';safer'; to stay with what they know and understand about homosexuality and i'm afraid this is something you have to respect. To them it's like asking them to change their belief system and we all know how difficult that can be :)
As for introducing your partner to you mum I don't think that woudl be such a good idea. Alot of things could go wrong if you attempted to do that. It might seem like a good effective way of ';helping'; her come to term with it but try and imagine someone forcing something on you that you felt ';numb'; against or just simply did not want to admit? Your automatic reaction would be to act hostile towards the situation. Now imagine the impact that situaiton would have on both you gf and your mother. If it's in the family home your gf in your mums eyes is a ';stranger'; so you'd be challenging her on her home turf. The natural reaction is to act aggressively or attack! Now with this situaton three epeople will suffer, you, your mum and you gf. You will be angry for your mothers reaction, you mum will be angry because she can't accept it yet and your gf will be embarressed! With all these taken into consideration I think you might have some chance someday if you just wait. I can't guarentee that you mum will ever accept it but if given time most parents do come round :) Just be greatful she hasn't disowned you as what happens to many gay people.
I hope this helps and I wish you the very best of luck :)
In a personal question now, what would introducing my gf do to my mom who's in denial? How would it affect the whole denial thing? Would it put her out of the denial state or make it worst? This step needs to be taken someday!How long can a parent stay in denial?
First, I think all people have some type of trouble with their parents. Second, I think your mom probably just wants the best for you and if you can find someway to show her that the best for you is being gay than that should take her out of denial!
Third, I really cant see how showing your gf to your mom could make things worse, so go ahead and do it:DHow long can a parent stay in denial?
She's in denial for a reason. She probably had dreams for you or she probably has social fears about you. I'd say that you should either introduce your girlfriend and make her review her plans or you can wait to move out.
Depends on your age how well it will go.
Contact pflag,org and take your mom to a meeting - if you have a chapter locally. Don't tell her what it's about ahead of time. SHe will meet other parents could had trouble dealing with a gay kid too. She will get lots of help. HUGS
I think it's best to give your mom time.... There's no specfic timeframe... But you'll know when it's time. It's one of those cliches, but it's true...
I think nobody can stay in denial for that long. Ahuh I think if you introduce her your gf it might help.
as long there will not allow them to open
Well tbh there is no ';lenght of time'; that a parent can stay in denial. Some parents take their children coming out to them like a breath of fresh air while others find it incredibly difficult to understand or accept.
But you need to bear in mind that our parents came from a generation very different from ours. Some parents grew up in the 1970's or ever slightly later where homosexuality was considered a ';sin';. You also need to keep in mind that the Church has had an incredibly powerful influence on alot of people's lives and religion was very dominant in the last century particularly after the second world war so alot of it's teaching would have been respected and upheld regardless of people individual opinions. So our parents are battling with alot when it comes to accepting our sexuality. They have to contend with what has been rammed down their throats by the chatholic church, they have to deal with the possiblity of not having grandchildren that they had hoped for and they worry that they have ';failed'; as parents and may keep looking for reasons for your sexuality. With all these elements taken into consideration the denial phase can last from 1 day to 1 month to 1 year to 1 lifetime and I'm afraid it's up to the parent to get out of it themselves and that's only if they can. There is no reality check that they can get tbh cause maybe for them it's ';safer'; to stay with what they know and understand about homosexuality and i'm afraid this is something you have to respect. To them it's like asking them to change their belief system and we all know how difficult that can be :)
As for introducing your partner to you mum I don't think that woudl be such a good idea. Alot of things could go wrong if you attempted to do that. It might seem like a good effective way of ';helping'; her come to term with it but try and imagine someone forcing something on you that you felt ';numb'; against or just simply did not want to admit? Your automatic reaction would be to act hostile towards the situation. Now imagine the impact that situaiton would have on both you gf and your mother. If it's in the family home your gf in your mums eyes is a ';stranger'; so you'd be challenging her on her home turf. The natural reaction is to act aggressively or attack! Now with this situaton three epeople will suffer, you, your mum and you gf. You will be angry for your mothers reaction, you mum will be angry because she can't accept it yet and your gf will be embarressed! With all these taken into consideration I think you might have some chance someday if you just wait. I can't guarentee that you mum will ever accept it but if given time most parents do come round :) Just be greatful she hasn't disowned you as what happens to many gay people.
I hope this helps and I wish you the very best of luck :)
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