Is there anything a parent can do about a teen boy smoking weed and drinking alcohol?

Realistically, besides locking them up in the house 24/7, is there anything a parent can do about a teenager drinking alcohol and smoking weed? This is never done at our home but we feel it might be a pretty regular thing with him and his buddies at parties and at kids' houses when the parents aren't home. He's 16-1/2.Is there anything a parent can do about a teen boy smoking weed and drinking alcohol?
Yes.


Let him do it.


The best way for him to learn tolerance and responsibility is by leaving him free to experiment.


These other people have no idea what they are talking about.


Teenagers whose parents constantly drug test them, threaten thim with police, and actually call the police, end up getting into worse things than weed and alcohol. When I was a teenager I had friends who went to the hospital, rehab, and their parents were intolerant almost to a level of abuse.


What is wrong with some of you?


Do not lie to your children. Especially when they are 16, then they know its BS, especially if they have actually tried the drugs. You need to have an honest talk with them about limits. As a parent, you need to be there for love and support, not threats. Unless you just want him to grow apart from you. Maybe he'll run away, OD on heroin.


I know this is gonna get about 50 thumbs-downs, thanks to you inexperienced, fundamentalist totalitarian despotic parents. You didn't even consider anything I said, you *****Is there anything a parent can do about a teen boy smoking weed and drinking alcohol?
Growing up I knew alot of kids like that.


And after ever time they got caught - which was almost every week - they would go and buy a new pipe and some more drugs.


I knew people who got kicked out of school, put in ';rehab'; (it was a place they sent teens, and was a total joke and a rite of passage for many), and other things and that never got to them.


The only thing I saw as a difference for some of them was hitting a complete bottom - and seriously paying for it.


It happens to the best of kids and parents. It's a horrible thing, but it could be worse, especially since almost all kids experiment with alcohol and marijuana.
Of course you can. You can do plenty. First, where is this weed and alcohol coming from. Surely it's not available at your home. Maybe the ';friends'; he hangs out with are getting it from older adults who have no parental skills.





Call the police on your child. You should know where he goes for parties. Tip the police off. Someone needs to report the illegal possession and sales of alcohol to minors. Also, marijuana, even if it's harmless, is illegal without doctor's prescription.





So, yes, scare the crap out of your child and NARC on them.
You can take him to a rehabilitation place and have a drug addict talk to him about how it ruined their life. Do whatever you possibly can to show him how bad it is for him. I personally know from my brother and plenty of other people how bad it is. Not one person I know that does weed has a good job, a good house, etc.. My brothers are my greatest examples. My oldest doesn't have a house, is in debt way over his head and there's so much, but then my other brother has 3 nice vehicles, a nice house, a wife, there's so much I could go on good about him. I have learned a lot from them two.
Show him some pictures or videos of what drugs can do, go on google you could probably find some pretty nasty pictures on there, that would put most people off.





Locking him in the house will only make him not want to get caught, but if you give a damn good reason why he shouldn't do it (disease, screws up your brain) then that would make want to stop altogether.





As long as he doesn't try to drive or hit people while drunk I really wouldn't worry about the alcohol, people with over protective parents tend to turn out worse.
What do you mean not lock him up? Cause that is EXACTLY what I would do if my kids were doing drugs.





First, piss test him cause you might be jumping to conclussions.





If you want to do real tough love, call the cops. He is a juvenille and his record will be sealed so it wont affect his life. Let him spend a couple nights in jail, betcha he wont smoke then. Do it on a Friday, he should be out by Mon in time for school.





EDIT: I say do it now cause ifhe gets caught as an adult he will obviously have a record.
yes make sure he has the right friends.if i were u i would keep him at home drive him to were he wants to go. take away his music.. and phone..not let him go to movies with bad stuff like that in it..and i would make sure he wears the right clothes (that he looks nice and clean) no chains or tattoos no piercings and no baggy pants and no dying with the hair and no mohawks! if you dont keep a close eye on him then one day when hes out of the house hes going to be one crazy person he will always get into trouble.. get arrested...and his life will be nothing if you dont act now! and check his pockets and room for drugs! talk to him too. make him work around the house and make him get a job some were. and DONT LET HIM GO TO PARTYS! and make sure his girl friends are clean cut and that there not scum bags. i promise you be SUPER STRICKED and he will change! and no its not taking away his life its helping him and making him go the right path! would you rather let you son keep doing what hes doing and one day go to jail and get killed or something or be stricked and have him grow up to be a nice loving good drug free person? and make him go to a good college for at least three or two years! BE SUPER STRICKED! even if he argues with u!(and tell him if he dosnt listen your going to get the cops involved) email me back)
Pay attention to who he spends time with. Don't let him spend time with kids you don't approve of. Drugs are drugs no matter if it's LSD or weed-- they're all illegal. Tell him you'll have him locked up if he tries drugs. My parents threatened me with that and I never used any drugs.
If......and I mean IF.......you can prove that he is doing this, then a few things come to mind.





Take his driver license away. Ground him. No computer. No phone calls. No visits from friends (including his girlfriend). Any combination.





Hopefully. you have sat down with him and any siblings and explained why he should not be indulging in drugs and/or alcohol.
Yes, there is - it's called being a parent. Why can't you lock him up? Put the kid in rehab, and involve the police if need be. You need to nip it in the bud now. If you wait until he's 18 (assuming he survives that long), his life will be ruined - or over.
I think it's realistic to take all their freedom away, that's what I'd do.
chill out you did it when you were a kid so let him do it