What is the best way for gay people to tell their parents about themselves!?

Hello everyone, I've got a problem which worries me a lot. so i put it here wish you can give me some suggestions, i need that! I'm a gay guy who accept myself finally after fighting with my mind for years, now mom and dad talk about marry girls everyday, but i don't want that, i don't want live with anyone else now, i want my life, not others expect...should i tell them about myself, will them got hurt? which is the best way to tell them the truth so that can cut the hurt? if something happened, what should i do? should i find someone else helping me to talk to them? should i wait it until the truth emerge?


I'm now 22, just finished college...live with parents currently, when i talking with my firends online, mom want to know who i talk to, what we talk about! we have big problem!What is the best way for gay people to tell their parents about themselves!?
Dude, I reckon that you shouldn't tell your folks. Not now, anyway.I think you should until the truth emerges on its own.





It sounds to me like you don't know them well enough; and they don't really know you. And you are just finding out about yourself, anyway. The time is not right .... honesty is not ALWAYS the best policy -- especially if the environment is not ready for it.





There is no point in shocking your folks: you obviously love them, and they obviously love you. So stop the chatting online at home. Go to an internet cafe or a friend or something like that.





You need to grow into an adult person so that your parents can have trust that your decision is a right one. They will have more confidence in accepting you and your life decisions once they have the evidence from you that you are not ';going through a phase'; or are being ';influenced by bad friends';.





So, since you're only 22, and just finished college, I reckon you should get off your *** and go and find a job. Get real. Work hard. Go do some charity work. Make all kinds of friends. Pick up your room. Help your dad around the house. Go and help out at the Old Age Home. Find ways to support yourself so you can have your own apartment. Make your folks trust you. Make them proud of you. Help them to get to know you as a real person.





And when they finally accept you as an adult, as a young member of society at large, then you can tackle this issue.





Good luck ....What is the best way for gay people to tell their parents about themselves!?
forget the first person answer. Gay is a choice just like how we choose to be heterosexual. Tell the parent you feel more comfortable with first. You need to tell them soon as possible.
first of all you are way to young to even think about getting married cant beleive your parents are trying to marry you off already shame on them. if you feel preasured at home by your parents i would suggest of moving out on my own to where you dont have to answer to any one but your self. for being gay they do not need to know anything your 22, old enough to make your own decisions in your life i am a parent my self %26amp; i only want the best for my kids %26amp; i will always be there for them %26amp; give them advice %26amp; support what ever the circumstances may be. if being gay bothers you so much %26amp; what your parents may think of you after wards they will just have to deal with it in their own way %26amp; yes it may hurt them but its who you are they can not not change who you are as a person only you can but not just because they want you to but you know what? there will be a time when your parents will find out %26amp; beleive me they will parents have a way of finding out everything when it comes to their kids 9 times out of 10 they probally have already figured things out by now sence they have not seen you with any girls, %26amp; just waiting for you to confront them with it but like i said i would not tell them anything just to keep peace in the family until you move out on your own so you dont have to face them on a daily basis %26amp; wondering what is going through their minds at that time all i have to say is good luck with what ever you decide to do in the near future.
There is unfortunately, no magic way to tell your parents and it probably will cause short term pain and anger and emotional upset however, in the long run you will be much happier if you come out and eventually your parents will be too. I highly recommend that you check out the Parents, Friends of Lesbian and Gay group. The website is www.pflag.org. They can be a great support for both you and your parents and you can get great advise as well.
You know your Mom and Dad. You must have an idea if they will freak out or not. It would be great if you didn't live at home anymore. Then you could just tell them quietly and calmly that you are gay. Since you live there you may have to prepare yourself for a confrontation. The thing is you won't be changing, only their perception of you will be changing. Sometimes it's hard for parents to let go of the dreams they have for their kids. Maybe the thing to do is tell your Mom the truth. The next time she asks tell her you are talking to Justin who you met online and you really like him a lot.
if you can't face your parents and really need to tell video tape your confession and give to them when they watch the tape sit down and have a talk
you gay get what u deserve