sometimes you have to do things you don't want to do. just grin and do it.
I hate fighting with the kids about chores, homework, EVERYTHING is a battle.What is something a parent would/should like to teach their child about Life?
That the only person you control is yourself, and the only person that controls you is yourself. You can't be too fussed over what everyone else thinks all the time, so you just have to worry about what you can help, and let go of the things that aren't in your control.
Ultimately, most kids spend way too much time worrying about what they think other people are thinking about them. It creates anxious, neurotic kids at such a young age, and it's not healthy.
I'm not saying they should do whatever they want because they don't care what others think, and not be conscientious, (typical teenage thinking, also totally wrong), but that worrying and fretting over it constantly doesn't do any good.
Also, by that age, I would be teaching them to question everything. Uneducated people do what they are told - educated people question what they are told.
Mindless conformity is the last thing you want to happen to a child.
Teach them to question what they are told, what they read, and look deeper into the message and motives of what they're being taught. I'd make certain they always question authority (yes, as a parent, even my own). This by no means means disrespect people, just to look at the reasons behind what's being taught to them and fed to them through various media sources, and that'll allow them to draw their own conclusions about what to do in a situation, instead of every choice and action being decided for them by others.
One of the most important thing to teach is respect for many different reasons. Examples:
To you respect your parents so the child does not have that false sense of entitlement, you know, where the kid says to the dad about a prom dress, '; you owe me dad, it is your responsibility';, because it is not, it is a privilege.
To respect your close friends and family, hoping they don't take anyone for granted, cause one day, that person might be gone.
Respect strangers because you don't know what they have been through. Maybe the person cut in front of on the highway today because they are distracted because they lost thier dad or something.
To respect themselves. This is especially important for girls. If they can't respect themselves, how are they going to demand this from others.
you really should start talking to your kid about sex. Too many times the first time parents and kids have the sex talk is when the kid is pregnant. It's a vicious cycle. They reccomend around 8 or 9 starting to start talking about sex and keeping the line of communication open between parent and kid. because believe me, its going to get hard when they start high school and sex is everywhere. dont be a naive parent. and dont let your kids get sucked into the partying/sex/drug phase that a lot of kids get into.
To be open minded and respectful towards all. Too many children live in a bubble and don't realize just how lucky they have it.
Another big one: This too shall pass. I remember thinking anything and everything was the biggest deal in the whole world when I was in 4th-9th grade. Now I realize that everything gets better in time.
The big wide world, different countries, people and cultures. Buy your child a globe and look at it together. Also that good manners, respect and responsibility will get you far in life.
Responsibility
that nothing is free
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