How long can a parent stay in denial?

When it comes to coming out to a parent, of course some parents get into denial.. And later on once they get out of denial they either accept it or they don't.. But honestly, how long can a parent stay in this denial phase? Can it be years? And how would the parent get out of it? What kind of reality check does the parent need?





In a personal question now, what would introducing my gf do to my mom who's in denial? How would it affect the whole denial thing? Would it put her out of the denial state or make it worst? This step needs to be taken someday!How long can a parent stay in denial?
First, I think all people have some type of trouble with their parents. Second, I think your mom probably just wants the best for you and if you can find someway to show her that the best for you is being gay than that should take her out of denial!


Third, I really cant see how showing your gf to your mom could make things worse, so go ahead and do it:DHow long can a parent stay in denial?
She's in denial for a reason. She probably had dreams for you or she probably has social fears about you. I'd say that you should either introduce your girlfriend and make her review her plans or you can wait to move out.
Depends on your age how well it will go.


Contact pflag,org and take your mom to a meeting - if you have a chapter locally. Don't tell her what it's about ahead of time. SHe will meet other parents could had trouble dealing with a gay kid too. She will get lots of help. HUGS
I think it's best to give your mom time.... There's no specfic timeframe... But you'll know when it's time. It's one of those cliches, but it's true...
I think nobody can stay in denial for that long. Ahuh I think if you introduce her your gf it might help.
as long there will not allow them to open
Well tbh there is no ';lenght of time'; that a parent can stay in denial. Some parents take their children coming out to them like a breath of fresh air while others find it incredibly difficult to understand or accept.





But you need to bear in mind that our parents came from a generation very different from ours. Some parents grew up in the 1970's or ever slightly later where homosexuality was considered a ';sin';. You also need to keep in mind that the Church has had an incredibly powerful influence on alot of people's lives and religion was very dominant in the last century particularly after the second world war so alot of it's teaching would have been respected and upheld regardless of people individual opinions. So our parents are battling with alot when it comes to accepting our sexuality. They have to contend with what has been rammed down their throats by the chatholic church, they have to deal with the possiblity of not having grandchildren that they had hoped for and they worry that they have ';failed'; as parents and may keep looking for reasons for your sexuality. With all these elements taken into consideration the denial phase can last from 1 day to 1 month to 1 year to 1 lifetime and I'm afraid it's up to the parent to get out of it themselves and that's only if they can. There is no reality check that they can get tbh cause maybe for them it's ';safer'; to stay with what they know and understand about homosexuality and i'm afraid this is something you have to respect. To them it's like asking them to change their belief system and we all know how difficult that can be :)





As for introducing your partner to you mum I don't think that woudl be such a good idea. Alot of things could go wrong if you attempted to do that. It might seem like a good effective way of ';helping'; her come to term with it but try and imagine someone forcing something on you that you felt ';numb'; against or just simply did not want to admit? Your automatic reaction would be to act hostile towards the situation. Now imagine the impact that situaiton would have on both you gf and your mother. If it's in the family home your gf in your mums eyes is a ';stranger'; so you'd be challenging her on her home turf. The natural reaction is to act aggressively or attack! Now with this situaton three epeople will suffer, you, your mum and you gf. You will be angry for your mothers reaction, you mum will be angry because she can't accept it yet and your gf will be embarressed! With all these taken into consideration I think you might have some chance someday if you just wait. I can't guarentee that you mum will ever accept it but if given time most parents do come round :) Just be greatful she hasn't disowned you as what happens to many gay people.





I hope this helps and I wish you the very best of luck :)