What are the expectation of parents from thier kids?

In todays fast moving life stile and competitive environment the parents have a lot of expectations from their kids even with out considering their capabilities and interests and harming the natural self of their kids. Let us discuss.


What are the expectation of parents from thier kids?
Near as I can tell, kids are in a state of Monkey see, monkey do up to a certain age.





Thereafter, along with the above they start to crack out of the shell of what ';monkey biz'; establishes and work towards becoming their OWN monkey.





Then they share that with their own little monkeys.What are the expectation of parents from thier kids?
Each n every parent of d world xpects that their child bcome d most successful prson of d world. Whn a child grows up slowly, thn aftr observations frm d parents abut d capabilities of d child, d parent starts concentratng thier view abut the futre of d child.%26amp; finally guide d child 2 fulfil their xpectation.





Whn d parents dont gets time to observe the activities of thier child( or dont wasts time 2 observe) thn this wuld creats problm 4 both parent %26amp; child, as b coz, d parent xpects the best frm d child withut knowing whethr the child hve d ability 2 do it or nt. And child gts a large pressure frm parent 2 do tht which he is unable 2 do.





So d best thing is 2 observe the kid frm d very begning %26amp; also regularly so that neithr the dreams of parents gt dostructd nor d child fells worst
Let us look at this issue from another angle.





In India , most marriages are arranged ones. Two people just come together to live as husband and wife physically . Over a period of time they develop liking , love and dependency on each other . However , many times the unfulfilled aspirations of the mother make them ';expect ' a lot of her children. What she wanted to be abd could not , what she wanted to achieve but could not , she feels that there is yet another chance for her , in this life. She dotes on her children , sacrifices her own personal needs and each passing day she raises her bar ( expectation). Most times these run contrary to the children`s own desires and plans..


Thus the children suffer these restrictions and once they are out of the clutches of the mother they go their way.


This is the second disappointment for the mother .


look at this way. You , as a son/daughter of your parent(s) do you have any expectations of your parents? if so how do you convey that to your parents? You dono`t.
Yes my Friend.


My parents didn't allow me to do in my desired field.


Now i'm in another field where i'm unable to give desired result. It makes lot of difference.
There shudnt be expectations from parents but as a human being ';they (kids) should lead their lives happily and truthfully';.
they xpect they will make a mark fr themselves and sum selfish ones xpect they will make a mark fr their parentz....
most parent their kids to be the worlds best doctor/vet/scientist etc. parents automatically think of what they want the child to be, and what they think would be best for them, without considering the child in any decision. proof of that is that most parent will say ';i want my child to do..so and so'; before they are even born. not all parents are this way, and, they are just trying to set up a life in which they think the child will have it better than in any other way. i know all parents will say do whatever you want to do, or you can do whatever you put your mind to. both things are true, but parents will push their kids whichever direction they think will be most helpful in their life. they do this without even realizing that they do. it is as simple as saying ';boy, lawyers get a lot of money.'; or saying ';doctors get to help people';. parents always say that they remember what it was like to be a kid... which they dont normally remember as well as they say they do. they dont know how much stress a child is put under, by others as well as themselves. i consider myself to be a privileged child because i can look at things from another point of view, other than my own. i can look at things through the eyes of a parent, and know what they mean, and why they think the way they do. i know why parents push and prod a child in the course they wish them to take. it is supposed to help them achieve a better goal, and a better lifestyle. i understand that, but, like you said, it can harm a childs natural self. i think a parent should teach their kids all they can. everything is helpful, but i also think a parent should let their child make up his/her mind, and do what they want to do with their life. give a child all the tools they may need for life, and let them make use of it the way they feel the need to.





the way a parent pushes a child, to a chosen life style, it is a little disturbing that a parent does not wish their child to think independantly. in others' opinions, is it better to have a mindless drone who does as is told-good or bad, or is it better to have a child that will think and decide for their own? yes, they would get in a little more trouble, but they would be able to learn from their mistakes, and when you spank them, they would think ';oops, i did something wrong, maybe i dont need to do that again.'; personally, i was (or am) a child, who, well, i do get into trouble sometimes, but i learn from my mistakes. i dont go out and do drugs, i dont go and get drunk every night. i just wont do it, unlike some of the other mindless idiots who want to follow the crowd. i am capable of thinking for myself, and i can decide for myself what i think is morally, ethically, and generally right. that, of course, makes me just a little rebellious, which is not always bad, it is just a little irritating to my parents sometimes. i have straight A's, i do not drink, smoke, cuss, that is just not who i am. i have had the options to be otherwise, but my common sense tells me that that is stupid, and, i am not. so, i listen to what it says, and, i dont get in trouble with that stuff. mostly, i get into trouble with back talking, but, honestly, if i had kids, i think i would prefer a back talking mouth, rather than one that smokes meth. wouldnt you?


nice question by the way :)


i hope i helped, and i also hope you have a wonderful day!!!





-Angel (i am 13, by the way)